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The next, the 4th topic is that Allah curses
those who insult their own parents.
Of course in this there are 2 interpretations or 2 points about insulting parents.
The first is as mentioned
in a hadith of the Prophet SAW:
“Allah curses those who insult their own parents.”
So the Companions asked, “Is there anyone that would insult their own parents?”
Then the Prophet SAW said, “He insults his friend’s parents, so his friend insults his parents back.”
This is how he insults his own parents.
Therefore it is not allowed to insult other parents,
what I mean are the parents of others,
whether they are dead or alive
– especially if they have passed away.
If they have passed away, and even if they are disbelievers, we are still not allowed to insult them.
We get this lesson from the story of Ikrimah RA,
the son of Abu Jahl.
When he (Ikrimah) entered Islam, the Prophet SAW said, “Do not insult his father,”
even if he was evil towards Islam
and he was named the Fir’aun of our ummah,
but then he is dead.
He is already dead.
Insults will not reach those who have passed away.
It is done.
Now this man (Ikrimah) has entered Islam.
He is different from his father – he is himself,
and his father is somebody else.
For example, a person just entered Islam,
perhaps somebody we know, like a neighbor.
His dad was a drunkard, but the person is a good friend and excelled at school
– (even so) do not make fun of him.
This is not allowed.
There is no relation between him and his father
(in deeds).
This is the first (interpretation of the hadith).
This is what is meant by “Allah curses one
who insults his own parents”
which is by insulting the parents of other people; therefore other people insult his parents.
The second (interpretation) is exactly as the wording of the hadith states – he literally insults his own parents.
There are people who are very harsh
towards his own mother and father.
“Oh mom, you’re like this! Dad you’re like that!
I’m smarter than you. I graduated college,
and you didn’t mom,”
or whatever harsh language (they use).
This is totally not allowed.
Somebody once asked a sheikh through a phone
live on TV which made the sheikh sob.
He said “Sheikh, what is the ruling if my wife is conflicted with my mother
and my mother is still staying over at my house.”
The sheikh suddenly sobbed and even the host as to why the sheikh sobbed.
Then he said, “My dear brother, fear Allah.
Your statement is heavy in the sight of Allah.
Are you saying that your mother is
(the one) staying over?
Even if that is your house, it is you who is staying over, not your mother,
because your wealth is also your mother’s.”
So be careful.
Only because we graduated, and we’re smart,
and we have our own house, and we have a car,
(and when) our mother comes from the village looking like townsfolk, and she does not understand much,
then we think low of them – do not (do this).
Humble yourselves
Allah ordered us to lower ourselves,
وَاخْفِضْ لَهُمَا جَنَاحَ الذُّلِ مِنَ الرَّحْمَةِ
Allah ordered us to lower ourselves with love and care
towards your parents.
Do not humiliate them.
Sometimes some people laugh at their own parents;
they make fun of them because
their parents couldn’t understand.
This is definitely not allowed.
Be careful.
The pleasure of Allah is in the pleasure of the parents.