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it's become so bizarre in society where
we are celebrating people that are not
pushing their physical limits and I'm
just telling you right now I don't pass
any moral judgment on anybody that
decides that they don't want to do that
but I will tell you one thousand percent
you are holding your life back
the reason most people fail to achieve
their goals is twofold number one they
don't have a sufficient level of clarity
and number two they don't want it badly
enough the statistic is that 92 percent
of all people that set a New Year's
resolution fail to stick with it the way
that you go from being in the 92 percent
to being in the eight percent is by
having a freakish level of clarity and
building so much desire in your life
that nothing could stop you even if it
tried this is what you need to do the
clarity piece is really the most
important thing that you can have in
your life and most people have a really
vague sense of clarity but because they
can say in a sense something like I'm
gonna win a gold medal they think they
have the clarity that they need but the
question I would ask somebody that told
me that they wanted to win a gold medal
is a gold medal in what the Olympics yes
Tom I want to win a gold medal in the
Olympics amazing which event swimming or
tennis swimming fantastic the
breaststroke the freestyle medley what's
it going to be you have to get so
specific with your goal that you know
what to do with the next 15 minutes of
your life ultimately success
accomplishing a goal seeing things
through all come down to what you're
doing with your time and what part of
your potential you're turning into
actual usable skill set the only way to
know how to spend your time transferring
your potential into skill set that is to
have a truly granular level of clarity
you cannot stop at the high level and
you can't do what a lot of people do
which is they as the Brits say they
waffle so when they're describing their
goal they either say something like I
want to win a gold medal which we just
covered is hopelessly vague or they say
something that's even worse which is you
know I really want to do something great
with my life I know that I'm capable you
know I was really athletic when I was a
kid and I know that if I applied myself
I could probably really you know
recapture what I was doing that's how
most people describe what they want to
do in life it is terrifying you need to
be able to State what your goal is in a
single sentence with no commas
parentheticals run-ons it needs to be a
very simple and direct goal something
like I'm going to win a gold medal in
the Summer Olympics freestyle medley
swimming event by 2028 whatever once you
have a go goal that is that specific
that contains the what you're going to
do the by when and the how much then you
know that you actually have a real goal
and not a hope not a vague idea but you
have something very concrete and
specific that you can execute against
now remember the goal is to translate
that into what you're going to do with
the next 15 minutes of your life always
and forever on and on and on when you
have something so specific that you know
how to break it down into those
incremental steps you can really begin
to make progress if you've ever heard
the idea of the 10 000 hour principle
it's talking about how we go about
actually achieving Mastery in something
and the punch line is that you spend ten
thousand hours applying yourself in a
disciplined fashion towards your goal
the discipline fashion is born out of
the clarity it's born out of the clarity
of knowing precisely what you're trying
to achieve and by when and knowing how
how to take advantage of I've tried
something it didn't quite work I need to
get a little bit better or this part of
my game is weak I need to focus on
getting better at that thing but again
all of that is born from clarity
and being able to break down that
Clarity into action items which is
absolutely critical because action items
are how we're going to turn our
potential into skill set and that is the
critical chain that you have to walk and
then from there it's about developing
the self-awareness that you need to know
what part of you is improving and what
part of you is not improving so that
brings us to the second thing they don't
want it badly enough the reality is that
most people even if they can get the
clarity that they want in their life
they really just don't want it that
badly most people myself you all of us
the things that we really want the
things that we want as badly as a
drowning man wants their next breath of
air those things those you're going to
get the things where it's like yeah I
want it yeah that would be cool I
promise you it's going to get way too
hard and you're not going to be able to
achieve that and the reason is that the
second law of Thermodynamics is that
everything moves to towards chaos so
everything is hard that's the really
simple way of saying it if we know that
everything is going to be hard then we
have to have a reason that we're going
to overcome that difficulty we have to
have a reason to keep fighting through
the inevitable boredom that comes from
trying to clock our 10 000 hours into
actually getting good at something or
even if your goal is more modest than
truly mastering something no matter what
it is even if it's trying to read a book
a week or something like that inevitably
life gets in the way inevitably we get
sick we get tired other things pop up a
goal cannot be the thing that you hope
life doesn't get in the way of a goal if
you want to be in that eight percent if
you want to see things through a goal
has to be the thing that you absolutely
demand of yourself that you achieve and
there unfortunately is no way around
that if you want to be successful you
have got to be willing to give it your
everything and that is really where we
begin to separate people out I have seen
people far smarter than me with more
natural Talent than me achieve nothing
compared to what I've achieved because
they don't have the willingness to push
through the boredom that goals demand so
again let me restate it you are only
going to get what you absolutely demand
of yourself so you are going to have to
put rules into your life you are going
to have to have an identity about
yourself that does not allow you to give
up does not allow you to slow down or
quit and I'm talking whether you're sick
or not for years I had hanging above my
fireplace the painting of Michael Jordan
in the infamous flu game where the
greatest player of all time even though
he had I believe 102 or 103 degree
temperature continued playing in the
finals of that series they end up
winning taking on the championship ring
is absolutely incredible but it never
would have been if he had had the kind
of goal where well yeah I'm sick so I'm
not going to show up and look I get it a
lot of people think that I'm crazy for
pushing people too hard but I'm telling
you right now this is how you accomplish
it so if you don't want your goal fair
enough I don't make a moral judgment on
people that don't want to achieve big
aggressive goals I completely understand
if you would rather lay back and have a
stress-free life that's a completely
fine moral righteous way to live your
life just be very clear about what you
want that goes back to point number one
once you know what your goal is that
goal then makes demands and you either
live up to those demands or you don't
and the reality is that most people
don't so even when they have the clarity
and they get into it and their kids wake
them up in the middle of the night and
then they're really tired the next day
they wake up late they're rushing out of
the door to get to work they go their
boss is a dick to them they come home
they're super stressed out through all
of that their goal suddenly becomes
unimportant and unfortunately because
life is hard and life is going to punch
us in the face constantly over and over
the only way that you're going to
achieve your goals is if in that moment
you get more aggressive that you have
those rules in your life that are like I
am doing this every day I know that I'm
trying to read X number of books lose X
number of pounds by this date and that
means by the end of this week I need to
have lost a pound or two pounds or by
the end of the month I need to have lost
five pounds whatever your goal demands
your goal ultimately will be translated
into math so it is very simple what do
you need to do on this day to achieve
your goal do you do it or not it really
is that cut and dry and if you're
looking over your shoulder for somebody
to save you I can tell you right now
they are not coming no one is coming to
help you this is something that you have
to do for yourself and I hope in hearing
all of this you realize why 92 percent
of people fall into the category of I
gave up I quit I knew what my goal was
or I didn't have enough Clarity but I
didn't do the things that I needed to do
in order to across the Finish Line it
really is that simple now the great news
is it really is that simple if you just
draw those bright lines in your life if
you make those demands of yourself if
you say I simply must do this to be the
person that I want to be and therefore I
am going to do it even when it's hard
even when it sucks even when it's boring
I'm going to keep doing this and let me
tell you right now even though what I'm
talking about is achieving goals I
promise you one thing if you set a goal
and you achieve it you will gain respect
for yourself and there is nothing that
matters more and I mean nothing there is
nothing that matters more than how you
feel about yourself when you're by
yourself so if you structure your life
in a way where you set a goal that is
two things exciting and honorable
exciting to you you just want to do it
other people don't have to tell you to
do it you just want to do it right it
goes back to the whole thing you've got
to want it badly enough and if you want
it badly enough then you're going to
stick with it and if you don't then you
won't if it's exciting then the second
thing is that it has to be honorable and
by honorable I simply mean that it
uplifts both you and those around you
that's incredibly important because once
you have that you can give yourself over
to it completely you can build that
desire in your life so that it is a
raging Inferno inside of you that your
identity does not allow you to deviate
from the rules in your life do not allow
you to deviate from and the sheer fact
of how badly you want it doesn't allow
you to deviate from but you've got to go
in and put in the time and energy to
build that desire and the way that you
build desire is by telling yourself that
you want it telling other people that
you want it and embodying the emotion
that you want to feel in order to cement
that feeling inside your mind because if
it isn't visceral when you're bored when
you're tired when life is hard if when
you say to yourself I really want this
goal if you don't actually feel
something positive if you don't actually
want it you will quit if people ever
tell you that quitting isn't an answer
you need to point to them and remind
them that they are a liar because
quitting is always an option quitting is
the easiest answer it is the answer that
92 percent of people take whenever
they're setting a goal if you don't want
that to be you then you've got to build
desire and get a freakish amount of
clarity if you want to become a better
person in one year there are two things
you're going to need to do change your
habits and Define what you mean by
better person so this goes back to the
idea that the most important thing
anyone can have in their life is Clarity
so who is it that you're actually trying
to become the important thing is to make
sure that you know what your value
system is you know what you value then
we know what you're actually striving
towards once you have a goal that goal
makes demands so if you're trying to be
the kind of person that gets up early so
that you can see your kids before you
send them off to school then you need to
be the kind of person that either deals
with fatigue all the time which I think
is a terrible idea and I do not
recommend or you need to be the kind of
person that goes to bed early that's one
of the Myriad ways that your goal is
going to mandate your behavior so
whatever it is that you value write that
down figure out what your values are
then we're going to build in habits that
are going to help us actually become the
kind of person that we want to become so
the reality is that you are a mixture of
beliefs habits
rules and values and once you get those
things all put together then you are
doing the things that you want to do and
when you're doing the things that the
person you want to be would do you are
the person you want to be it's one of
those things that it's easier said than
done but it really is that simple so we
want to map all of that out we want to
make sure that we have Clarity we want
to write down what our values are we
want to write down is there somebody
that is like the kind of person you want
to be at least as you perceive them if
there is what are the behaviors that
they do that makes you feel they're the
kind of person that you want to be are
they the kind of person that goes to bed
early are they the kind of person that
gets up early are they the kind of
person that takes their kids to school
are they the kind of person that's
striving to achieve their goals are they
the kind of person that's driven loving
kind compassionate whatever those things
are you want to map them out into a set
of behaviors once you have them mapped
out into a set of behaviors now we're
going to begin putting routines and
habits in place that are going to make
sure that we're doing those things so
going down that list if we want to get
up early we need to go to bed early if
we want to go to bed early then we need
to make sure that we have everything
laid out that's going to allow us to do
that so this is something that I've
worked my ass off in my own life to make
sure that all I have to do on a daily
basis are follow my rules and my habits
so I'll walk you through what my routine
looks like on a daily basis so first of
all I have a rule in my life based on my
goals goals make demands so my goal is
that I'm trying to build the next Disney
to build the next Disney is going to
take a Herculean effort it's going to
require us to generate a lot of Revenue
to build out a lot of Ip all of that
stuff then makes demands on me so to
meet the needs of what I'm trying to
build Monday through Friday if I'm awake
I'm either working or working out now
because my marriage is actually my
highest value which I've mapped out
since my marriage is my highest value on
the weekends then and I'm going to spend
my primary time being a husband that's
incredibly important for me to remember
what my value system is so when those
two things are colliding I know which is
a priority now I have three big
priorities you can think of number one
as my marriage number two is my purpose
which is work and then number three is
my family they're in that order and I
execute against them in that way it is
not a mistake that my wife and I are
building a company together it was a way
for me to integrate my wife into my
purpose to make sure that when I was
pursuing one I was not pulling away from
the other so again my goal made demands
and I'm building habits around that so
habit number one is that from the moment
I wake up until the moment I go to bed
Monday through Friday I'm either working
or working out so I've got all of that
laid out so right next to my bed or my
workout clothes so that as soon as I
wake up I'm putting on my workout
clothes so there's not another step
that's going to be required for me going
and getting that workout in more or less
the first thing that I do do is I go and
work out so I get dressed I head into
the gym I get my workout in that way the
day is not going to get carried away
because I found if I had a habit of
trying to work out later that the day
had a habit of getting in the way and
making that very difficult and now I was
competing with being tired at the end of
the day and still trying to stick with
the gym so I'm being honest with myself
about what I'm like and since I know
that I'm likely to get fatigued as the
day wears on I created that habit of
making sure that I got to work out first
thing in the morning once I finished my
workout I have a whole thing around
cognitive optimization I'm not going to
walk you through every detail but I do
the things that I need to do to be
cognitively optimized including
meditation fasting and things like that
but very quickly after I'm done working
out I'm gonna get to work and I have the
things that I get to work I have another
habit around that that I use that I call
my important things list I want to be in
the habit of knowing what I'm going to
be doing now I don't want to be in a
position where I'm having to think about
what I should be doing next because when
you're in that position you're wasting
time so I spend some of my cognitive
optimization time in meditation which
allows me to do something I call
thinkitation which is basically where
I'm letting my mind wander across a very
specific problem that I have set for
myself and then I take notes on that
part of that note-taking often is making
sure that my priorities are in the right
order and then when I'm done with that
I'm just executing I'm going down that
important things list which are listed
in order that they should be executed on
that is one of the most important habits
you can build into your life is to not
be afraid to prioritize to keep that
list in priority order and so many
people are afraid to say this is number
one this is number two and this is
number three so they start doing things
like I have a three-way tie for the
number one position that is total BS it
absolutely does not work I'm telling you
right now now you must be completely
unafraid to set priorities to say this
is more important than that until you
can do that you are going to struggle in
your life to make progress because the
reality is that you cannot do two things
at one time you may be able to very
rapidly shift between different tasks
but you're always going to be doing one
thing at a time and so you want to make
sure that you're doing them in the right
order that again is one of the most
important habits that you can get to a
big part of the success that I've had is
because I am hyper efficient with my
time in fact it is very fair to say that
I am obsessed with efficiency that I am
constantly looking at am I doing things
in the right order if I do this thing
will it make thing number two and thing
number three easier that's often how I
judge what should go in the number one
position but make sure that you're in
the habit of breaking things down in
priority order and then executing
relentlessly against those and not
allowing yourself to get distracted this
is exactly exactly why I have that rule
in my life where if I'm awake I'm either
working or working out it creates a very
bright line for me so that I know if I'm
in accordance with what I should be
doing or I'm not and I'm never sitting
there thinking of what I should be doing
in those Prime hours of course at some
point you have to think about it but I
saved those early hours for execution I
do not want to be trying to come up with
a list of things to do I want to be just
boom right into execution mode so that
is the one of the most useful things
that you can begin to put in your life
after that you need to have an hour at
which you allow the outside world to
begin to come into your world so I don't
take my first meeting until 8 30 a.m I
used to have it even later than that but
we've gotten into a period now at the
company where there's just too many
things to do and so I have let it
encroach a little bit but having said
that I'm up usually around 3 30 to 4 30
a.m so so I have four to five hours
sometimes before I have my first meeting
and most days I actually don't take my
first meeting until nine or ten o'clock
so I push that as late as I can the
reason that I do that and the reason
that I think that this is one of the
most important habits that you could put
in your life if you're trying to improve
yourself is because the odds of somebody
other than you knowing what you should
be doing with your time to achieve your
custom-made goals is effectively zero so
if the first thing that you do is pick
up your phone and check your email
you're saying hey I don't know what I
should be doing with my time so let me
see what somebody else thinks I should
be doing with my time or if you pick up
your phone and you start Doom scrolling
right away you're letting people take up
your cognitive real estate using social
media can be insanely powerful I myself
use it I'm probably on social media at
least an hour a day but I have very
specific moments when I allow myself to
use it and I have very specific tasks
that I go on there to do either to learn
something or to broadcast cast something
so you want to make sure that you are
being very thoughtful about once you let
other people into your space into your
either your mind or onto your to-do list
that it is at that point the right
moment to do that because you've already
moved your most important things through
you've already got your agenda moving as
fast as it can and then you're opening
yourself up to the outside feedback now
depending on what you're trying to do in
your life that may not be at 8 30 or 9
or 10 in the morning that might be at
four or five PM now I understand that
most people given the nature of your job
that's not going to be possible but I
just want to make sure that whatever
you're trying to do that you carve out
time in the very beginning to be
executing those are going to be your
Prime cognitive hours you want to make
sure that you get something done now
food is a huge part of this equation
it's beyond the scope of this answer to
really go deeply into that but I will
say any habit that cognitively optimize
advises you is going to be absolutely
critical so you want to make sure that
you're getting sleep you want to make
sure that you're eating healthy and just
I'll round that to Whole Food whenever
humanly possible and do not eat sugar
minimize that as much as humanly
possible and then meditate exercise and
work out if you're doing that basket of
things you are going to be able to be at
your best cognitively now for whatever
reason it's become so bizarre in society
where we are celebrating people that are
not pushing their physical limits and
I'm just telling you right now I don't
pass any moral judgment on anybody that
decides that they don't want to do that
but I will tell you one thousand percent
you are holding your life back you will
not be able to think clearly you will
not be able to perform efficiently you
won't even be able to be pain-free which
is going to be its own level of hell and
distraction
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and so while I don't think you're a
better person if you work out I
certainly don't think you're a worse
person if you don't you are certainly
not going to achieve all that you could
achieve if you don't make massive
demands of your body you are having a
biological experience that is simply the
truth of the matter and I know that this
bothers a lot of people but that's just
the reality you're not going to get
around it and so if you ignore the
biological reality of what you eat how
you exercise how you sleep taking care
of your mental health through meditation
and eating well which is arguably the
most detrimental thing you can do to
your mental health is eat poorly I mean
that from a depression standpoint I mean
that from an anxiety standpoint I used
to have profound debilitating anxiety I
thought it was going to be something
that was happening in terms of the way I
was thinking as it turns out it was from
something I was drinking so not alcohol
just diet energy drinks were the bane of
my existence and I had no idea until I
finally stopped drinking them and real
realized oh my God that was the root of
70 plus percent of my anxiety and simply
eliminating that from my diet had a
profound impact on my performance so be
very thoughtful about habits around that
so ultimately it boils down to defining
exactly who you want to be what are the
behaviors that the person who is like
who you want to be would do and then do
those things and the way to do that is
to put rules and habits in your life to
make sure that you execute against those
I gave you the ones that I use in my
life the last thing I will say is that I
go to bed early and I don't use an alarm
so those are the things that roughly get
you there and then I will just say as a
very oblique parting reference that
don't fail to have people in your life
that you love and that love you back
there is nothing sweeter despite all of
my intensity around goals and I think
it's so amazing there is a reason that
my marriage is my number one priority
and not even my purpose and
accomplishment so be very thoughtful
about who you emulate be very thoughtful
about what you decide to make a habit
because the things you repeat really
will become who you are once you get
initially started in the pursuit of your
goal of trying to improve yourself and
become something more something better
the key is consistency and
follow-through consistency and
follow-through you become what you
repeat the reason that anybody
successful becomes successful is because
to quote Winston Churchill they can go
from failure to failure without a loss
of enthusiasm the problem is the human
animal has chosen a tactic of using
culture in order to have generational
progress so a horse will come out doing
all the things that a horse can do in 20
minutes but horse culture doesn't
progress because they come hardwired
with everything and they have for
thousands of years and they make no
progress whereas humans a generation 10
000 years ago invented the wheel and
we're all still using it now but in
taking that strategy what ends up
happening is that you really do become
the thing that you repeat the thing that
you do consistently and if you begin
slacking off of that then you don't end
up making that progress you certainly
can't maintain that progress so you have
to be very very thoughtful about what
you repeat because it is going to have a
profound impact on your life now the
vast majority of people end up just
breaking they end up quitting the reason
that I've had the kind of success that
I've had in my life is simply because I
understand that iteration is how we make
cultural progress it's what I call the
physics of progress most people when
they're running the physics of progress
when they get to the point where they
have to evaluate their results they end
up lying to themselves and making it
somebody else's fault now the physics of
progress are really simple it's the
scientific method recontextualized for
whatever goal you're trying to achieve
and it goes like this you come up with a
hypothesis if you have information that
can inform the hypothesis that is much
better but if you don't when you're
beginning call it your best guess you're
taking your best guess as how you go
from where you are to achieving your
goal there is inevitably going to be an
obstacle in your way and your best guess
is about what do I need to do to
overcome that obstacle to make
meaningful progress towards my goal then
you're going to turn that hypothesis
into something that you can actually do
then you're going to turn that you're
going to actually go do that thing and
then you're going to get a result from
that thing it is almost certainly going
to fail to some extent which is fine
because failure is the most information
Rich data stream on planet Earth but you
have to learn from the failure to learn
from the failure you have to be willing
to admit that you made one most people
will not admit that they made a mistake
and so they get stuck at that level and
in that moment they say it was the world
it's because I was born in the wrong
time my parents were dumb the world
doesn't want somebody who looks like me
to succeed whatever excuse they use to
make it somebody else's fault now
remember the most terrifying thing about
excuses is that they are valid I'm not
saying that those things aren't real I'm
not saying that the world isn't trying
to hold some people back I'm just saying
it doesn't matter you have to overcome
it no matter what so in the moment where
you tried this thing and it didn't work
don't spend your time and energy
focusing on how something else stopped
you even though I will grant you it's
true the world is trying to stop
everybody from doing everything it just
is the reality accomplishing something
meaningful is freakishly difficult so
don't focus on that it's more difficult
for you it just doesn't matter you're
just gonna have to work harder you
either want to accomplish that thing in
your life or you don't and you're going
to give up that's the reality the people
that get what they want are the people
that absolutely demand that they're
going to keep going until they get that
thing so in that moment when you're very
tempted to focus on how other things
have stopped you you're not going to
what you need to do is be consistent so
in that moment you're going to say what
could I have done differently to get a
better result and that's when the
physics of progress Loops now you come
up with a more informed hypothesis you
learned your lesson you figure out what
you need to do that's going to be a
little bit better than last time you
turn that into a thing that you can do
you do that thing it will fail to some
extent you stare nakedly at your
inadequacies you figure out what you
need to do to make it a little bit
better and the process begins again that
is why you have to be consistent but the
reality is that most people break most
people cannot go from failure to failure
without a loss of enthusiasm they end up
breaking they end up thinking that
either there's something wrong with them
or that the world is against them and
because they don't want to deal with the
pain and suffering of having to face
their own inadequacies or they give up
because they just think the world is
against them they don't make progress
because you have to be able to fail a
lot to learn from those failures if I'm
right that humans as a species have
chosen culture as the learning mechanism
then you have to run the loop that
culture demands which is to try
something it fails you iterate you get
better that works at the societal level
over Millennia and it works at the
individual level in an acute thing where
you just have to figure out why didn't
that work and keep going but the truth
is difficulty boredom struggle pain
breaks almost everyone that it touches
and I will remind us all 92 percent of
people fail to achieve the goal they set
for themselves and the reason is that
all of that difficulty just stops people
because they don't have the right
mindset they don't realize that they
need to fail they don't realize that
failure does not make them a failure so
you're going to have a ton of failure in
your life you have to contextualize it
as the most advantageous thing that
could happen to you so when I fail it
stings it sucks I hate it I want
everything that I do to work the first
time and I want to make maximum progress
as fast as humanly possible but once I
realized that just isn't the way that
things work and even people like Elon
Musk who I think are abnormally
intelligent they realize oh I have to
fail a lot I have to try things and see
what works and what didn't there is no
way around being in the messy middle
there's no way to think or hypothesize
your way to what's going to work the
best you have to get in there and try
things even somebody that's thinking
philosophically has to be able to get in
there and battle their ideas and take
their ideas out to other people even
Einstein went out and made sure that his
ideas were battle tested not only
through experimental physicists but also
just his friends that were other people
that were able to beat up his ideas and
poke holes in them and if you're in not
willing to put your ideas to the test if
you're not willing to try things and see
what fails then you you will forever be
stuck thinking and not making any
progress you really want to be doing be
a doing machine somebody that's out
there trying but that means you have to
risk embarrassment and embarrassment is
one of the things that destroys so many
goals because people don't want to admit
that they were struggling people don't
want to admit that they were having a
hard time and so they either don't tell
people about the goal which is a huge
mistake you want to tell as many people
as you can it's part of the process of
building desire you want to tell people
I'm going to do this thing and it really
matters to me and I'm going to
accomplish it by this date now all eyes
are on you but that's one of the ways
you're going to stick to what you're
doing and if the whole point is that you
have to repeat repeat be resilient be
gritty stick with it try fail try fail
over and over and over as you get better
at overcoming those obstacles then you
have to be willing to to push through
all of that difficulty to know why
you're doing the things you're doing and
to understand that that's just the
process so guys I'm telling you if you
really want to achieve something
absolutely powerful in your life you've
got to be persistent if you haven't
already be sure to read the book grit by
Angela Duckworth it's an amazing expose
on how to be gritty if you're not
already the process that I use for
achieving my goals is really simple
first and foremost you want to make sure
that you cognitively optimize I cannot
stress that enough so much of my life is
about doing things to make sure that my
brain is working well they look like
this number one get sleep do not use an
alarm most people set an alarm stop I
built three multi-million dollar
companies one of those being a billion
dollar company all without setting an
alarm do I occasionally set an emergency
alarm for something like a 4 AM flight
yes but for the most part I don't use an
alarm I'm talking like 99 percent of of
my days I do not set an alarm I want to
make sure that I get all of the sleep
that my body needs why because I'm able
to be more efficient people mistake
grinding around the clock and becoming
less efficient because they're tired
with actually getting more done what you
want to do is make sure that you have a
very high output of achievement per
waking hour so I check in with myself
about every three hours to make sure
that I'm being productive if you're not
being productive nothing else matters so
go to bed early I go to bed at 9 00 PM I
don't use an alarm I typically sleep six
to seven hours that's changed if you've
heard other content where I say five to
six hours right now I'm in a cycle where
I'm sleeping closer to my average is
probably just under seven hours so I
never know what that's going to be it
tends to be regulated by the amount of
stress in my life so I'm getting roughly
seven hours of sleep so that means that
if I go to bed at 9pm I'm up at 4am I
have a rule in my life that if I'm awake
Monday through Friday I'm either working
or working out I give myself only 10
minutes to get out of bed why because I
struggle to get out of bed just is a
thing it's always been a thing for me
from the time I was a kid my dad would
have to drag me out of bed in the
morning to there was a period in my
early to mid 20s where I was laying in
bed four to five hours a day and just
could not bear to get out of bed it's
absolutely ridiculous even I am
completely scandalized by the reality
that to this day despite all of the
things that I've accomplished I have to
fight myself just to get out of bed so
that's a reality I accept that so I gave
myself a rule that I had to be out of
bed in 10 minutes or less right next to
my bed I keep headphones so I put my
headphones on I begin researching the
second I wake up so I'm researching uh
technically this gets into a long thing
right now I'm in a phase where I
actually read while I sleep long story I
don't think you get things subliminally
that's not that but I do find that it
helps me stay asleep I don't necessarily
recommend that for everybody but just by
way of being completely transparent in
terms of what my routine looks like for
achieving my goals from the second I
wake up I'm researching something that
matters to me I immediately put on my
gym clothes I head to the gym right away
I work out I then meditate after I
meditate I do something I call
thinkitating the reason that I do these
two things one meditation is a good way
to get your stress and your anxiety down
to zero the reason you want to do this
is cognitive optimization if you are
feeling frantic if you are constantly in
fight or flight your brain is not going
to function as well as it could what is
happening when you go into fight or
flight is the blood is literally leaving
your prefrontal cortex the prefrontal
cortex is the seat of higher level
cognition it's where you future plan
it's where you maintain your discipline
and so when you're in that fight or
flight stage you don't have the blood in
the prefrontal cortex in the way that
you need to which is why people end up
cheating on their diet it's why they end
up not sticking with their goals and
persevering so you want to make sure
that you're taking the time to meditate
to lower your stress lower your anxiety
and then there's a hidden benefit to
meditation which is why I follow that
sort of almost seamlessly into
thinkitation which is where I stay in
that meditative posture I keep my
meditative breathing going I'm staying
in that cognitive space because when you
are meditating if you're just coming
back to the breath very simple practice
my meditation practice is dead simple
it's literally what I call just breathe
so as my mind wanders I remind myself to
come back to the breath so just breathe
my mind wanders again back to the breath
wanders back to the breath wanders back
to the breath it's tragic how rapidly my
brain begins to wander but I just keep
bringing it back now when I do that
enough I get into a calm and creative
state when I'm in a calm and creative
state unique areas of my brain begin to
talk to each other and so I will come up
with very interesting solutions to
problems that I won't get when I'm not
in that state so this is why people will
often say I need to sleep on that
problem because your brain goes through
that cycle that's very much like a
meditative State as you're falling
asleep and then waking up again you pass
through a very similar state so I will
call that calm and creative so once I'm
in that calm and creative state now I
begin to get these I give myself a
problem to solve before I sit down to
meditate so I know what I'm working on
it's tied to my important things which
we'll get to in a minute but I sit there
and I know what the problem is going to
be that I'm going to start working on
when I'm in that column and creative
state and then I'll allow myself to take
notes as interesting ideas come up I'm
going to journal on that which I would
not do during the meditative part where
I'm just coming back to the breath back
to the breath back to the breath and I
do that for as long as I need to to get
to zero stress zero anxiety calm
creative once I'm there maybe five
minutes maybe 20 minutes maybe maybe 45
minutes if I'm really stressed out but
once I'm there then I move over into
thinkitation and I begin noodling on
those hard problems once I finish that
then I'm going to go into my important
things now how do I know when to stop
thinkitating and move on to important
things I have found that at some point I
begin running out of really fruitful
novel ideas and once I feel like I'm
kind of trying to force it then I'm like
all right let's just now move into
executing on my important things so now
that I'm in my important things which is
a list that I keep constantly maintained
so I know the top things are that I
should be working on so I'm not spending
that time thinking about what I should
be doing I just go straight into
execution mode so then I start going
down the list doing them in order now
the way to execute on something is very
much in order so first thing you're
going to do everything on that thing
that you can do until you've pushed it
as far as you can go and now you're
waiting on other people and then you're
going to move on to the next thing
you're going to do everything that you
can on that until you're waiting on
other people and then you're going to
push it off so on and so forth down your
list now my important things list is
predicated on my goals so the very
important thing to understand about the
nature of goals is that they make
demands if you want to win a
championship in swimming then you need
to do the things that a swimmer trying
to win a gold medal by a certain date
would need to do it's going to dictate
how you eat how you sleep how you train
who you talk to how you think all of
that stuff and so you have to one get
good at identifying what your goals
demand and then two you have to be good
at actually sticking to the things your
goals demand which this is where most
people fall down because it gets boring
it gets difficult so you've got to be
able to push through all right so I work
my way down my important things list
once I finish doing that then I because
I'm the CEO of a company at that point
then I'm going to begin to engage with
my team I'm usually working for about
four to five hours on the things that I
know that I should be doing to have the
highest most efficient impact on the
company and then because I know a big
part of my job is orchestrating people
making sure that they're focused on the
things that they should be answering
questions and the like then I go and I
engage with the company and then I take
meetings based on what's important and
how time aligns it just is what it is I
take meetings until 6 PM I try to cut
off there's one meeting that I have a
week because we're dealing with a
company in China that goes until 7 30 at
7 30 uh it's only one day a week that I
do that most of the time my last meeting
ends at six and then for the rest of
time for the next three hours I go back
into my mode of controlling my time
making sure that I'm working on things
that I need to do including making sure
that my important things list is up to
date that I'm working on all the loose
ends for the day to make sure that
everybody has what they need to start
the next day all that good stuff which
gives me the ability in the morning to
take advantage of my Peak cognitive
ability now one of the reasons that I've
ended up structuring my day like that is
because I found that in the morning I'm
so super sharp I've got these creative
ideas I'm able to really make progress
create space for myself whereas in the
evenings I'm a little bit slower I'm not
quite as efficient as I am early in the
day and so it remains easy for me to be
reactive but it's much harder for me to
be proactive that's just me maybe you're
the complete opposite structure your day
around you so in the evenings I can
remain very useful as I respond to
people's questions and things like that
as I come over my important things list
all of those things I find much easier
to do in the evenings and then the last
hour before I go to bed whenever I can
and this unfortunately breaks apart
sometimes but whenever I can I want that
last hour to be work but to be something
I'm really excited about now you want to
be very thoughtful about how you
structure your life because you should
love what you're working on now I know
that that can be very difficult as
somebody who has a periods in my life
absolutely hated my job I completely
understand but you want to push yourself
to get to the point where you at least
have a part of your job that you
absolutely love so that's how I spend
that last hour of my day is only working
on when I can something that I'm really
excited about and that helps combat
fatigue and it also helps me get ready
for bed because you don't want to be
dealing with something super stressful
as you're getting ready for bed and
another thing that I do just by way of
sleep hygiene is that I make sure that I
am not getting blue light into my eyes
towards the evenings I think that's very
important so starting three hours before
I go to bed I'm wearing blue blocking
glasses my computer is set to go into
night mode so at Sun rise the blue light
comes back on and at Sunset the blue
light turns off I think that kind of
thing can be very advantageous as for my
diet which is another key part of
cognitively optimizing I do intermittent
fasting seven days a week 365 days a
year including Christmas Day and I do
that because it makes me feel better so
it's not even for vanity or to be cool
it's just I feel better when I do that
so I do I average I I track this for
about 18 months every day and it
averaged 17 hours including weekends
holidays and all that so there are
course times where that window is more
narrow but the least man the least I
knowingly uh go to is 14 hours so that's
the least amount of time that I'll go
between my last meal and my first meal
the next day like I said even on a
Christmas day or something like that I'm
gonna have at least a 14 hour window
again just to protect my stomach and
make sure that I feel great and that
will on the weekdays mean that I'll go
sometimes 18 19 sometimes 20 hours uh
without a meal before I eat and I eat my
last meal at about 2 p.m sometimes a
little before sometimes a little after
but that's roughly there and then I
don't have my next meal till eight nine
sometimes ten eleven o'clock so that is
my AI process and I think that there's a
lot of things that virtually everybody
could use from that to build a very
effective process the truth is hitting
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friend back to today's episode
if you want to really make progress in
your life one of the keys is going to be
to track that process now the way to
think about getting better is you want
to get incrementally better the problem
is if you're trying to get incrementally
better you're basically going to stand
still so you want to be asking the
famous question that Peter Thiel asked
which is how do I make my 10-year plan
happen in the next six months when you
start thinking like that it really does
shift your thinking into having a
radically different approach I think one
of the big problems that people have
when they're trying to make progress is
they set a goal that's quote unquote
realistic and when it's realistic it's
not very exciting I teach a whole class
on the process of setting goals and one
of the things that I tell people is you
have to set goals that are exciting
there's a whole bunch of research on
this that shows the people that are most
likely to stick with their goals are the
people that set a goal that is truly
exciting to them the goals that are
going to be exciting are going to be big
goals that's just the way the human mind
is wired I'm telling you you right now
there is an evolutionary imperative that
has been embedded in your brain and
there's no way around it that demands
that you do hard things I think from an
evolutionary perspective that makes
sense because Staying Alive was hard and
if we didn't get an intrinsic emotional
reward from doing hard things we would
have died out so we are all the
ancestors of people that got off a
little bit undoing hard things so when
you don't do hard things you don't get
that positive feedback loop you feel a
sense of dis-ease and so many people
have that sense of unease and they think
that I need to go retire and my life
needs to be more relaxed I need to be in
a beach somewhere this all sucks it's
not true at all I'm telling you right
now the thing that you need to do is
find meaning and purpose and go after it
go after it in a big way set yourself a
crazy goal that you really believe in
that you really think life would be
better if I do this thing if I achieve
this and even if I fail man I would have
spent my life well try trying to
contribute to that if you build your
life around that and go all out man
trying to make something that you really
believe and come true to bend the world
to your will to close your eyes and
imagine a world that is better than this
one open your eyes and then execute to
make that world come true you will love
your life that's the key to find
something that you really believe in and
then go all out after it now to track
all of this progress you really do want
to be journaling writing things down
checking things off how many days did
you stick to what you said you were
going to do this can be such a an
amazing way to gamify your own life is
it just have a calendar digital or
physical go through and mark off the day
did you do what you said you were going
to do yes or no and then tally up for
the week for the month for the year what
percentage of days did I do what I said
I was going to do now in this moment you
can lie a hundred percent you can lie
but but if you lie when you look at that
calendar you're not going to feel the
way you want to feel you're going to
feel like a liar you're going to know
that you're a fraud the whole idea is to
feel a certain way when you look at that
calendar to be like I did the thing that
I said I was going to do and I feel
really awesome about that so it is truly
one of those things the only person that
you're going to cheat if you're lying
about this is yourself so come up with
whatever way you can to track this stuff
whether it's a spreadsheet whether it's
checking things off in a calendar if I'm
completely honest about what I do I
check in with myself every three hours I
don't keep a written tally but I do
reward myself emotionally whenever I do
the thing I said I was going to do so
the first one for me is did I get out of
bed in 10 minutes or less if I did I get
to feel good about myself if I didn't
two things happen one I don't get to
feel good about myself and I give myself
that jab in the ribs you said you were
going to do it and you did not do it and
then number two I will confess to my
wife or tier to the community out there
that I didn't do that day I didn't meet
my goal and so by checking in with
myself in real time I'm able to see the
other is when you're setting goals it is
absolutely critical that all of your
goals have a metric associated with them
so that you know the exact metric that
you want to hit so you know if you're
making progress so often when people get
into the physics of progress they didn't
set a metric by which they're going to
judge their goal so they don't actually
know if they're making progress you want
your goals to be specific you want your
goals to have metrics the reason that I
emphasize that so much is most people
avoid metrics they avoid dates they
avoid those specifics because then they
and others will know if they're actually
making progress if you don't want the
specifics it means you're not actually
interested in the actual progress you're
interested in the fiction of feeling
better about yourself by saying that you
have this really cool goal and so one of
the things that I'm constantly checking
with myself is did I live up to the
rhetoric meaning I'm telling people I
want to do this cool thing or did I
actually show up and play to win did I
leave it all out on the field so do not
think that rhetoric is actual
achievement talking about something is
nothing did you actually make progress
and to be honest even trying even though
I actually do think and this is complex
but I actually do think you should
emotionally reward yourself only for the
sincere Pursuit but when you're thinking
about tracking progress you need to be
naked and raw about whether you're
actually making progress now the reason
it's so important to do that is if
you're not making progress you need to
adjust this goes back to the physics and
progress you're staring nakedly at your
inadequacies you're asking what could I
have done differently to get a better
result and if in that moment you don't
have a metric to judge yourself against
you don't know how to better inform your
next hypothesis so the goal of trying
something is to learn something that
gives you a better thing to do and when
you do that you make more meaningful
progress and when you don't make that
meaningful progress you need to
understand why but it really does come
down to what gets measured gets improved
what gets measured gets improved if you
don't have the measurement you won't
know whether you're making progress you
won't have the emotional sting that you
need to force yourself to actually dig
in and figure this out so gamify and
make sure that you have metrics you do
those two things and you will make
massive progress if you want to know if
you're setting the bar too high or too
low when it comes to goal setting I will
just tell you this right now you're
setting the bar too low everybody's
setting the bar too low if you think
about the crazy things that people have
accomplished whether it's in I think
it's 64 years or something we went from
the Wright brothers flying a plane for
the first time to landing on the moon
64 years it it that's an impossibly
small amount of time to think that
somebody would have been alive at the
time like you could have been 20 at the
time the Wright brothers flown and said
we're gonna go to the Moon by the time
I'm 85 and been right but imagine how
many people would have told you that you
were out of your mind there is so much
literature on this it's just beyond
reproach the people that set the most
aggressive goals are the ones that end
up achieving their goals now the reason
is because there is complexity here the
reason is that it gets you excited
enough to go out and pursue this thing
to be able to attract other people to
your goal that's a huge thing that
you're going to learn if you have a goal
that's really exciting and when people
think about getting meaning and purpose
in their life and they think about oh my
God I could be a part of a team that
that takes us to the moon or I could be
a part of a team that terraforms Mars or
I could be a part of a team that ends
world hunger or deals with climate
change whatever the thing is it gets you
excited when it is a giant gigantic goal
it actually motivates people now you
also the people that achieve their goals
have a path to getting there so it can't
be a pipe dream you have to actually
know how you're going to March towards
that thing and if it's a business you
need to know how you're going to
generate Revenue all along the way it is
incredibly difficult but you do want to
make sure that you're setting a bar that
is within the realm of physics you don't
want to be throwing something so far
into the trees that it is literally
impossible if you have to invalidate the
laws of physics I will tell you that
that's not very interesting and then one
thing that you want to also think
through is is it something that you
could achieve in your lifetime and if
it's not something you could achieve in
your lifetime are you okay being
somebody that's going to lay a brick
towards building that thing and there's
that old adage that you want to plant
trees under whose shade you will never
sit so there is very many honorable
things that people could do that they're
not going to reap the old ultimate
benefits of that they understand that
they're only going to be one brick in
that wall think about all the people
that have given their entire
professional careers to solving cancer
which remains unsolved countless amazing
Brilliant Minds have given themselves
over that completely knowing all they're
going to do is Lay one brick in what
will ultimately be the you know the
building that is that solution but be
honest think about that but make sure
that you have a path to get there that's
the key it's got to be exciting and
you've got to see a path but you want to
make sure that you're really going after
something that's going to inspire you
for the long run because remember the
reason that most people quit is because
they are broken by how boring and
difficult things get so when you ask
yourself in the grips of that difficulty
that suffering that comes along with
pursuing a goal you actually care about
you are going to ask yourself why am I
doing this why am I doing this and if
the answer isn't compelled telling
you're going to quit so make sure that
you come up with a goal that's big
enough that when you ask why you know
exactly why and you'll keep pushing it's
inevitable when you're pursuing your
goals that you're going to find yourself
in a rut and you are not going to want
to stick to what you're doing the most
important thing is to identify is this a
pattern in your life so many people love
the beginning of something they love
that excitement that initial Fascination
when everything is new and it just feels
Limitless and everything feels possible
they haven't gotten that first punch in
the mouth that comes with really trying
to get good at something and accomplish
something when life is going to get
complex it's going to get in your way
you're going to fail you're going to
embarrass yourself all that stuff so in
that moment you've got to make sure that
you are going to push yourself through
that get out and get to the other side
it is inevitable that in your pursuit of
a goal that you care about you are going
to end up getting in a rut in that
moment most people give up I'm going to
tell you what you need to do if you want
to be part of the eight percent that
actually sees their goals through you
need to fall back on process so many
people want to fall back on motivation
but the reality is that motivation is
not going to be there for you just the
vast majority of the time the vast
majority of the time you're going to be
bored things are going to be hard you're
going to be tired it's going to be
complex and in that moment you just need
to run a process you need to have habits
that you can rely on to get you through
I've talked about them before but just
to recap you want to make sure that
you're cognitively optimizing you want
to make sure that you have your
important things list you want to make
sure that you're doing things in order
you want to make sure that you have
rules in your life that you stick to you
want to be leveraging your identity that
you're the kind of person that sticks
with things and then you want to have
habits and routines that you're just
going to loop around day after day after
day that you know are moving you towards
your goal to get to your goal it really
is about persistence consistency
metrics so you know whether or not
you're making prog progress and then
just running the physics of progress
over and over and over you have a
hypothesis about how you're going to
overcome the obstacle that stands
between you and what you're trying to
accomplish you're going to do something
to accomplish that thing and you're
going to see how much progress you made
which is going to give you more
information for you to reformulate that
hypothesis if you fall back on that
process that is going to be the thing
that carries you through never count a
motivation because motivation really
does come and go so make sure that you
have an airtight process and then
everything else will fall into line all
right everybody that's it if you follow
those things you really will be able to
stick with your goals and make just
about anything in your life come true
it's about persistence it's about
process it's about desire it's about
knowing what you want specificity and
sticking with it
if you enjoyed this episode about
changing your life in the upcoming year
and achieving your goals check out this
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live a life that you will love welcome
to another episode of impact Theory
today today my friends we are talking
about the age-old question following
your passion doing the thing that you
most want to do in financial stability
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buckle up because this is something that
a lot of people think about and the
roads are windy so we're going to get
into it right now how can I get rid of
the fear of following my passion
especially when the odds are against me
it's so hard to get over the false
notion of permanent security
okay
you're never going to get rid of the
fear of following your passion let's
start with that
as you said there is no such thing as
arriving in life and this is one of the
main ideas that I want people to really
grapple with as you think about how to
live your life well is that there is no
success big enough that you can stand in
that success and that it will last
forever really this is a game of
neurochemistry this is how you feel this
is what stresses you out this is what do
you love this is an Ever Changing roller
coaster of emotions and so understanding
that you could fail at a job that you
hate I think this was Jim Carrey's uh
advice to his father that you could fail
at a job that you hate so you might as
well at least try the one that you're
going to love now that doesn't mean that
we just uh throw caution to the wind and
we're going to get more into that with
some of the subsequent questions but
recognizing that
you will never
reach a destination the only destination
in life is death and that is not a
worthy aim you shouldn't be thinking
about that or focusing on that or
thinking uh in terms of you know I just
need to get to 95 or 150 or whatever age
you're aiming at this really is a
question about how you want to feel
every day and once you understand that
that there are things that make you feel
alive those things you're passionate
about those things that give you more
energy than they take and then there are
things that take more energy than they
give and so you want to be very careful
to structure your life in a way that
you're doing something that gives you
more energy than it takes okay so we
know that we're never going to arrive
because we know that we're never going
to arrive we understand that this is
really just a game of emotional
management because we know that this is
a game of emotional management then what
we're asking is what is this thing that
gives us passion is it giving us the
neurochemistry that we want or is the
thing that we're passionate about so
high risk that even though it would be
fun in the abstract once I really commit
to that and make it my job it stops
having that same sense of giving me
energy and that's the tension this is
where people end up not being able to
make a decision because they have not
yet figured out how to optimize their
life in such a way that they can pursue
that thing that they're passionate about
without that sense of joy and excitement
and that incredible thrill of getting
better at something that you love doing
and that even when it's hard it's giving
you that energy
because people can get lost in that they
get in there they think this is going to
be amazing that passion turns into a job
and then they lose the enthusiasm or
there's so much stress and pressure
around having to be successful at that
passion because you no longer have the
safety net of a job or whatever the case
may be they don't recognize that just
pursuing something that's your passion
on paper isn't necessarily going to
solve that problem that the problem
fundamentally is that life is an
ever-changing roller coaster of emotion
and the name of the game is to
manage those emotions well okay so how
do we set it up if we have a passion and
we want to follow that how do we do it
well
so we know that we're never going to get
rid of the fear until we have
predictability and
um
stability in terms of the financial
things that we need and I would say we
want to take care of that we want to
make sure that we have as much Safety
and Security on the financial side as we
can to give us the room to pursue the
things we're passionate about now the
fastest way to do that is to cut your
expenses to the quick if you don't have
an expensive lifestyle this becomes a
whole lot easier and one of the mistakes
that people make is they're living a
lifestyle that's beyond their means and
so they have to keep making this massive
monthly nut and so it becomes very
stressful to pursue that thing that they
love okay so we're either going to
recognize that we have to reduce our
expenses so that we don't have to worry
so much about money or if we already
have a job that pays well we have to
pursue our passion in nights and
weekends fashion such that we can build
that Financial stability so that we can
then progress okay so getting that
stability there I think is really
important the people that have the
strongest home life take the biggest
risks and oftentimes pursuing that
passion is going to be a so instead of
trying to eliminate the fear we're going
to structure our life in such a way that
the things that trigger the fear aren't
as high risk okay that's a big part of
this then we want to make sure that
we're structuring our passion in such a
way that it doesn't end up robbing us of
the joy so we want to experiment with
what our passion looks like as a
financial Endeavor and I think that's a
very important experiment to run again
nights and weekends without making any
major life choices is going to be very
important now if we're in a situation
where the odds are stacked against you
this is where the first two things we
just walked through become incredibly
important you want to make sure that
you've got your finances taken care of
so that if this fails that it doesn't
drag you down that will make it not fun
and again there's no accomplishment so
great that you can stand in that forever
so even if you were to be successful you
still have to deal with the emotional
management
so do not put yourself in this hyper
stressful situation where it's you're
always living for the future because the
Success is Not Guaranteed but the
struggle is so the key is to struggle
well that's the answer get after it okay
next please address the different
aspects of transitioning from your
regular job to your dream job what
mental strategy should I employ how much
Financial cushion is enough how much
confidence do you need to have in that
new Venture let's work backwards so how
much confidence do you need to have in
that new Venture so one taking the
answers that I just gave in the first
question you want to make sure that
you're structuring your life in such a
way that you don't have these huge
financial risks that you're not adding
stress to yourself in that way the
second thing is you don't need to have a
lot of confidence that the new Venture
is going to work given your current
skill set and vision what you need to
have an obscene level of confidence in
what I call the arrogance of belief is
that you can get better over time so if
you put time and energy into something
you actually will get better at it it's
what I call the only belief that matters
once you recognize that the human animal
is designed to grow and improve through
disciplined effort so you go in you're
practicing something very specifically
with the aim of improvement so you're
not just doing it randomly on repeat you
have a very structured approach to
improving it so once you have that and
you believe that if you have that
structured approach to Improvement that
you actually will improve now you've got
the confidence that you need to go into
this and if you have structured your
life in such a way that you don't have
these huge financial responsibilities
looming over your head now you're able
to buy yourself the time that you need
in order to get good enough to pull this
off I'm always telling people that the
goal is to avoid a mortality event you
want to stay in business long enough to
be able to figure it out then you can
run what I call the physics of progress
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into that Loop Where You Are
working improving yourself buying
yourself the time that you need to
improve running the physics of progress
so that you can iterate your way to
success now you're going to be able to
pull this off even if it's difficult
even if in the beginning you don't have
the current knowledge and skill set that
you're going to need so many of the
things that I've gone into in my life
when I first started it I didn't have
the ability to pull it off yet and I
just made sure that I bought myself the
time to figure it out in terms of the
how much cushion do you need I I would
say six months you need to have at least
six months a year if you can pull it off
if you are hard-working disciplined
you're going to be able to find a job
that will cover your basic necessities
within six months for short you may not
find your dream job but you will
certainly be able to find a job that
will pay your bills so six months to me
is that bare minimum again you can
always cut your expenses back or make
more money those are your two hours save
more money I should say those are your
two options all right now as I'm
transitioning from my regular job to my
dream job personally I would treat them
exactly the same because I'm always
trying to act as an intrapreneur right
so if I'm at a company I know that my
job description is just the things that
I need to get done quickly so that I can
find other things within the company to
take on as responsibility and blow
people away and that really is the path
to success within a company is to do
your job to an extraordinarily high
level of quality and then to help other
people to take on other responsibilities
and as you do that and perform well
there you will find that you'll be able
to move quickly through the company now
because I'm always doing that I'm going
to do that whether it's just the job
that I'm doing to pay my bills because I
know that that's the way one to love
what you're doing to progress to get
better every day like that's a huge
thing and also to be able to really get
that progression through the
organization as well through over
performance so whether it's my dream job
or a normal job I'm going to be doing
that so this is just about hitting the
ground running constantly getting better
are doing your job extraordinarily well
having some element of that you're
trying to be the best in the world at
and then going Beyond all right the
mental strategies that I employ the key
thing you're going to have to avoid here
is overwhelm so you don't want to get
into a situation trying to go really
hardcore put a lot of pressure on
yourself because this is your dream job
it's we're going to show up every day
we're going to play in a sustainable
manner we're going to act in a way that
we can do forever so I always tell
people that I average 93 hours a week
and the reason that it's 93 and not 94
is 93 is joyful and 94 is where I start
to get diminishing returns so whatever
your number is that's where you're going
to put yourself and you want to work
hard smart and long hours if you want to
progress and get ahead but you have to
be very protective of your mental health
and so long hours needs to be defined
against where you stop having fun where
you stop being able to progress in a
joyful manner okay so Joy is a huge
metric stress is a metric you need to be
watching these things because at the end
of the day the only thing that matters
is fulfillment pursued in a joyful
manner now that doesn't mean that it's
always going to be up fulfillment covers
that difficulty that they're going to be
hard things I use the word Joy instead
of happiness happiness to me feels far
more ephemeral Joy is that thing that
you get out of doing something that
really matters and making progress
towards that so there's no doubt that
there are going to be times where things
are hard there's no doubt that there are
going to be times where you start to
feel that overwhelm coming on you need
to stop that in its tracks
what I do is I always remind myself I
don't do overwhelm and I will literally
say that I don't do overwhelm now that
does not mean that I can carry an
infinite weight on my shoulders because
I cannot what it means is that I know
that in those moments when you begin to
feel yourself overwhelmed you need to
stop
you need to take a deep breath you need
to meditate and you need to remember
that doing less is always an option
okay this is from the hustle porn guy
the guy that's like go hard 93 hours
here we go let's do it I'm telling you
right now I can only do that because I
exist within a framework where I know
that if things for too many days are not
joyful they're too stressful there's too
much
that doing less is always an option that
I can dial things back
and I like to remind myself that I
always keep Detachment in my back pocket
now what I mean by that is the Buddhist
idea of Detachment that suffering comes
from desire it comes from wanting more
better bigger now I want all of those
things and I find that engagement is the
juice of life for me but I remember that
at any time I can detach from that
wanting that reaching and trying to do
more and because I have that in my back
pocket it allows me to relax in those
moments where I can feel overwhelm
starting to build up
just remind myself now is the time to
meditate
now is the time to breathe from my
diaphragm
now is the time
where I least feel like I have the time
to relax
that I need to relax
and because I know that I can always
slow down take a step back
I never get overwhelmed
and because of that I'm able to keep
going and keep performing but if I just
tried to run in the red all the time
then I would stop having fun I would not
want to do it anymore and I would give
up and the only thing that I have that's
like a superpower is my relentlessness
and so I don't want that to be broken
because I'm overplaying my hand and
going way too hard what's your
suggestion for leaving corporate and
pursuing my own business I feel prepared
to do the work it's just upholding the
house car and expenses that are a huge
risk I'm a single mother with two
children any advice will help
first of all thank you for your service
so having children is brutally difficult
and I am so grateful that people are
doing it that love their kids and that
are doing their best to raise them
that's amazing so you're definitely in a
difficult situation here you've got a
lot of obligations so what I will say
here is that getting super efficient
with your time is going to be incredibly
important
because we're gonna not leave our
corporate job not until we've got the
bills taken care of from the other
options so if you're starting your own
business you want to start it nights and
weekends now this is advice that I've
taken myself so when we started Quest we
were also running a technology company
so we ran the technology company all day
and then nights and weekends we would
work on Quest and we did that for a long
time until Quest got its feet under it
and so taking that strategy while I know
how sexy and cool it is to say burn the
ships of the shore and come on there's
no turning back like it's do or die that
puts a level of stress and pressure on
you that is not going to be fun and if
it is true that like I said in the first
answer there is no accomplishment so
great that you can just stand in that
moment forever you will always and
forever have ups and downs moments of
success moments of failure victories
defeats moments where you look amazing
moments where you're embarrassed okay
they're all coming for you and there is
no get there and stay there forever so
this is about learning to do that dance
well it's about structuring your life so
that you can survive when it gets hard
or when you fail or when there's a
downturn right so you need to be really
thoughtful about how you structure that
especially given the fact that you have
kids and you don't have anybody else to
rely on so we're going to do nights and
weekends we're going to get hyper
efficient with our time that's
incredibly important and we're going to
spend whatever time we can allocate
because of course you're going to want
to allocate a bunch of time to your kids
but we're also going to need to find
time for you and in that time for you
we're going to focus on building your
new business now this is why it does not
make sense to build a business unless
you are passionate about it unless you
love the idea because if you love it and
you have a strong why there is a reason
why you're doing all of this then you'll
be able to push through all the hard
times you'll be able to stick it out
you'll have that desire it will energize
you and all will be well
but given that
we're still working to make sure that
we're paying the bills we have the
tremendous responsibility of raising our
kids and keeping a roof over their head
and paying for the car and all of that
stuff so when we take time away from our
kids or from just relaxing
we want to make sure that we're doing
something that energizes us that is
critically important so as you figure
out what that business is going to be
that you're growing make sure that it's
something that you would love doing
every day
even if you were failing okay that's the
key something that you would love doing
every day even if you were failing if
you do that now you've really got a shot
but if you don't and you pick something
that you think is going to make you rich
or it's going to allow you to exit your
own life or it's going to allow you to
pay for your kids college tuition all of
those things are going to set you up for
failure because now you're not making
decisions based on what you love and
what you would struggle for and fight
for you're making decisions based on
things you think are going to bring you
a lot of money and I will just repeat
the struggle is guaranteed the success
is not
the struggle is guaranteed the success
is a question mark you may not ever make
the kind of money off of this that you
want to
so make sure that it's something that
you believe in and you're passionate
about if you went back to your 20 year
old self knowing everything you know now
what would you tell yourself to have a
fulfilling career
I would tell myself
to only do things that matter to me
in the beginning I didn't have a why and
I lost almost a decade of my life
pursuing something without a why and I
will just tell you that it's utterly
miserable and once I finally said I'm
never pursuing anything ever again that
doesn't have a strong why then my life
got a whole lot better as a human as a
social creature I'm telling you right
now it is very easy to wake up
to fight to go to war for people that
you love and care about and to build
something that's going to help them that
you can do
but when you're showing up just trying
to make money you're not going to make
it it is a brutal slog and no amount of
money in the world can ever touch how
you feel about yourself and I'm telling
you the reason that I harp on
fulfillment all the time is the formula
for fulfillment is very simple you're
going to work very hard
to gain a set of skills that matter to
you
that are exciting to you in service of a
goal that's exciting and honorable and
by honorable I mean that it serves not
only you but other people
now if you're doing all of that
now you're going to have that energy
that you need to keep going to keep
fighting to keep pursuing it if you
don't have that it really becomes
miserable and since at the end of the
day the only thing that matters is
joyful fulfillment I wish that I could
have spared myself that decade so I
would very much
Focus myself on that idea I was so
hardcore about wanting to get rich so
that I could go build the thing that I
wanted to build but I didn't even know
why I wanted to build a film studio
I just knew I love film
that was it
but even that would have been way too
hard
to do without a reason why I wanted to
do it so creating is amazing but I know
plenty of people that are in the film
industry that don't control their own
destiny that are extraordinarily
frustrated so even this thing that they
love so much there's so many other
people that are involved with it that
even that can be a very difficult path
so you better have a really compelling
reason why you want to tell those
stories because if you have that reason
when things are hard and you're asking
yourself why the hell am I doing this
what is the point
that you have an extraordinary answer
and if you have not yet read the book
Man's Search for meaning by Victor
Frankel read it in fact don't even
finish this video go read Man's Search
for meaning by Victor Frankel it is
extraordinarily important
to get those ideas in your mind this was
somebody who survived Auschwitz who
watched this whole family be destroyed
and realized that the only way to make
it through what he was going through was
to have meaning and purpose to give his
suffering meaning
now once the suffering had meaning he
could endure it it was a great Niche
quote
Whoever has a strong enough why can
endure almost any how
you need to know why you're doing this
stuff you need to know why you're
fighting once you know that
everything gets a whole lot easier but
if you don't know that you will give up
I would anchor myself around that I came
to the idea but it took me way too long
are humans wired to be subservient
making it so hard for us to commit and
move towards what matters to us what
practices help you step into the fire
and help you consistently embody your
highest self are humans wired to be
subservient
no
but
we all have different personality types
I've heard it said
that humans are 50 hardwired meaning
unchangeable and fifty percent malleable
to live life well
you need to recognize both of those
things in yourself
so what do you like the parts that are
hardwired that are going to be immutable
or close to it
and once you understand that then you
can focus on the 50 that's malleable to
make the adjustments that you need in
order to be able to move towards your
goals now when you recognize that you
may have a personality type that makes
you
better suited to be uh a number two a
number three and number four whatever in
a company rather than to be the CEO if
you can actually get comfortable with
that then you can begin to craft your
life in a way that's going to give you
energy but when you buy into
narratives around what people are
supposed to want what is cool then all
of a sudden you find yourself crafting a
life for yourself that ends up becoming
a torture chamber so
it's pretty fascinating as people get
older they tend towards
growing more peaceful with what they're
really like now
that's about the 50 that's hardwired
I'm always saddened when people ignore
the fact that they have this massive
part of them that they can change and
that their life would be unrecognizable
if they did it but to err on either side
is to blind yourself to a fundamental
truth that failing to acknowledge will
worsen your life tremendously so don't
buy into a narrative that you need to
run your own business or that you need
to be an entrepreneur or anything like
that
what you want to figure out is where you
love existing where can you chase
fulfillment the hardest where can you
engage with your passions most deeply
that's the question and if that means
that you are a mid-level engineer in
fact one of the most fascinating
examples of this Steve Wozniak okay
co-founder of Apple computer with Steve
Jobs
Steve wanted to be an engineer he never
wanted to get to the point where he was
like the president of the company and
dealing with business meetings all day
he wanted to engineer he wanted to be in
there in the hardware writing the code
that was the thing that gave him juice
and the fact that he had the
self-awareness to understand I don't
want you to keep promoting me until I'm
running the company I want to be here as
an engineer in the thick of this solving
these problems that is going to be a
joyful life for me
so recognizing what it is that you
actually want what speaks to your
personality where are you going to be
most energized where are you going to be
the most alive
then put yourself there
and then pursue it with everything that
you have in a Joyful Way where progress
is a key and that you can as you say
Step Into the Fire
but I want to make sure that people
aren't blinding themselves to what they
really want the people are taking the
time to develop that self-awareness if
you can't say in a single sentence what
really fills your tank what gives you
that energy what makes you feel alive
if you can't say that in a single
sentence you're in trouble
so Journal
write about it think about it work on it
because
getting that right is critically
important and what I see a lot of times
is people have a feeling
they never stop to ask what that feeling
is they never stopped to ask where it
came from what it means they just have a
feeling that they should be doing XYZ
thing and they go pursue it sometimes
with their head down for a very long
period of time I know I did that
sometimes people never look up and they
spend their whole career pursuing
something that they don't love they
don't care about because they think
they're supposed to either the world has
given them that idea right we're living
through a time where being an
entrepreneur now is cool
certainly not everybody is going to
enjoy that
we're
a social animal with a competence
hierarchy and progress feels awesome and
so oftentimes people want to just
progress blindly without thinking about
do I need to progress within the
hierarchy of a company or do I just need
to get better at something so that I can
do things that other people can't do
because it's very different if you
gave Steve Wozniak the lowest you called
him the janitor but he creates the next
piece of game-changing technology
does his title matter or did it matter
to him that he got so good that he could
actually create that groundbreaking
piece of technology now if you like the
climb amazing climb but if the climb is
misery and you're finding yourself in
progressively jobs that suit you worse
which is why they say that people rise
to the level of their incompetence
because you end up getting promoted
until you get to that job that you kind
of suck at and then you just stop
so if you know what you love and want
and where you fit in and whether you
want to be the person that's leading or
whether you want to be in a pack and
part of a community
figure that out about yourself and then
figure out how within that framework
what do I need to improve to chase to do
all the things that I want to do that
make me feel alive
that's the key
that's how you embody your highest self
be honest about the 50 percent
and then be honest about the 50 that you
can change
because your life will be unrecognizable
and I think Tony Robbins is right that a
foundational pillar to human happiness
is progress
all right
I'll leave you with that that my friends
is how to think about passion versus
chasing that dream taking risks
Financial stability it's all important
and while I would love to just tell you
to ignite the ships on the shore and
storm the castle the reality is that
most people that do that end up dying so
one make sure that the castle that
you're trying to storm is the right
castle and that the mere Act of trying
to storm it is going to be fun if you're
still struggling to Envision your goals
you might be experiencing burnout check
out this next episode to find out what
you can do my friends it is easy to
mistake burnout for laziness but let me
tell you right now these are very
different things and you've got to learn
to tell the difference