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welcome everyone to motivation or
Garbage the soon to be viral hit show
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agent Smith and this is the show in
which two players face off as we Plum
the depths of The Human Experience by
looking at phenomena around the world
and asking one big important question
motivation or
Garbage
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she's the author of The book's the 5-sec
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give a warm welcome for Mel don't call
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contestant number two is a Serial
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Nutrition and the former king of
remedial jobs he's a self-described
brain fanatic who hates working out even
though he does it religiously ladies and
gentlemen the man who used to stand
outside of Cheesecake Factory on
Saturday mornings waiting for it to open
the White Rabbit himself and your host
of impact Theory Tacoma's finest Mr Tom
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topic Dwayne The Rock Johnson All Right
contestants get your get your cards
ready how do we do this and on three
reveal your
answer motivation all right we'll start
with contestant number one Mel Robbins
why is the rock motivating to you um
well if I have my facts straight which
is
questionable um uh he was once homeless
and he came from literally the bottom in
terms of hitting rock bottom and clawed
his way out and followed his passion and
I also love the fact that the Fast and
Furious movie franchise was something
that everybody kind of snubbed their
nose at and laughed at and now they're
laughing all the way to the bank by
following their intuition and I also
love the fact that he said even though
Tom doesn't want to talk politics he did
float an idea out there that he might
just run for president go rock
motivation we love it motivating Tom
what do you think um to me anybody that
can do what he's done to his physique is
utterly astonishing that kind of
physical transformation comes with a
mental transformation so my boy
forey gets motivation all right two
motivations for the rock let's go to our
next and by the way if he runs for
president I'll vote no question there we
have it there we go let's go for the
next topic and it is the concept of no
days off All Right contestants get your
responses ready all right and Tom let's
start with you on this one he's giving
him motivation
yeah is it true that you need days off
yes occasionally um but to make it
something that you celebrate I think is
a mistake I think people should be going
literally as hard as they can trust
yourself if you're screaming for a day
off take one
um but as like a standing thing I think
it's okay not to all right and it's
inspiring in fact all right now would I
think it's Insanity the science is
against it and it's complete and utter
garbage uh I was just with brandan
brashard and the guy said on stage that
he takes 17 weeks off a year and it was
the first time in a while that I've been
really jealous of a dude and I thought
there is something wrong here because I
have been working too hard I'm running
two companies and and and I'm I got
three my husband and I have three kids
and and you one of the things that has
really struck me as an entrepreneur is
that without the downtime without the
ability to take a day off from the grind
the push the stress the move the push
the build the drive you do not have the
ability to reset your brain you don't
have the ability to do the productive
kind of procrastination on ideas that
you're noodling and so I think it's
really critical for your success to be
intentional intentional about taking
time off whatever that means for you
I've actually wiped out the whole summer
I'm doing four speeches this summer
that's it because I haven't had the
ability to focus on Creative projects
because I have no time off so I think
it's complete garbage complete all right
there you go difference of opinion all
right let's move on to our third
topic money contestants get your
responses
ready and what do we got two motivating
let's start with Mel um you know I'm
just really motivated by money not not
that that's the number one driver but
it's a such a fun game and it's to me I
just have a lot of fun making a lot of
money however all of the research shows
that most of us are not intrinsically
motivated by money that's really not the
reason why I do what I do I do what I do
because I love um connecting with people
I love the moment that people have an
Awakening
but the idea that I can make money lots
of money doing the things that I love
and provide for my family that is so
motivating to me but if I hated what I
was doing money alone wouldn't be a
motivator but yes very motivating it's a
great answer Tom what do you think um I
pretty famously chase money for a long
time only to come up emotionally empty
so I can say having been on both sides
of the equation that people will forever
chase money because money is real once
you understand what you want to do with
the money it's no longer just an inert
lump of cash which can do about one
thing and that's release heat energy
which if you light it on fire will keep
you nice and warm um but really truly
the things that the grandest things that
we're going to do as a society or even
as an individual are going to need
resources so you're either going to be
asking for them from somebody else or
you're going to be accumulating those
resources yourself but at the end of the
day you need that and if you've read the
book the rational Optimist by Matt
Ridley he talks about specialization and
how basically Society is ever going to
move forward towards specializing and
once you specialize you need some sort
of economic vehicle to make that happen
uh we're not trading seashells the thing
that we've decided to trade is money um
so there is tremendous tremendous power
to money because of its ability to
facilitate so I think when people Lament
The Emptiness of money it's because they
don't know what they're trying to do
with it I'm shocked that you said this
really well I'm shocked because I've
heard you say that that you I I I can't
remember the exact sentence that you say
but i' I've seen you say it online I've
seen you say it on a stage and it has it
was something about the fact that that
money isn't what's important to you and
so I find it really interesting maybe it
was when I I don't remember the the
exact part of the story but I I'm very
surprised to hear you say that it's
motivation I expected you to say it's
complete another garbage because I also
know you're the kind of guy that is
truly following your heart and throwing
your hat over the ring so anyway just
got to throw that out there yeah love it
let's move on to our fourth how are we
scoring this by the way it the points
are made up the rules don't matter so
yeah there we have it okay we got some
Applause welome everyone all right
number four
Millennials Millennials okay give you a
second to think about it and
answers all right uh-oh we have a split
decision here
well let's start with Tom and then we'll
get to you
Mel um I at the end of the day it's a
large group of people and anytime you're
getting a large group of people together
you can Count Me In there's going to be
an endless number of Fascinating People
um I don't Subs like I am of the goggin
philosophy of tough and the [ __ ] up
buttercup like that at the end of the
day like that's where I'm at what is
that from what is gogin Goin go what is
that I don't know what that is what is
the goggin goow a brief tangent here
nice goggin was our most recent episode
of impact Theory just dropped yesterday
in fact today today see now I have I was
on a plane so I'm sorry they didn't have
tot totally get a pass but he's a Navy
Seals from the book living with a seal
He is unbelievable this guy is is
literally like my hero I want to be this
guy when I grow up he's absolutely
please don't cuz we need you Tom we need
you to be you if if I could be gogin at
least briefly that would be deeply
emotionally satisfying so anyway he is
he is looking for people to really step
up and toughen up and I think I'm a huge
huge huge proponent of that having said
that like having worked with as Millen
many Millennials as I have like anything
there's just an incredible number of
awesome people in there so um yeah as as
any huge swath of people get my thumbs
up um well I kind of had a split
decision because on one hand there are
aspects to the way that Millennials get
typ cast that I find really exciting as
an entrepreneur and you know the ability
to really figure things out professional
googlers super techsavvy
uh in in a in a good way being
self-driven and and understanding the
importance that an
individual uh can make and an opinion
that you can have and that's something
that a lot of generations it wasn't
instilled in us because we were not uh
raised with social media and so at the
age of 18 I didn't have a platform to
broadcast myself
unless I was standing on a table drunk
at Dartmouth screaming you know
something like that or arguing with my
mother at the kitchen table so there's a
there's psychological shift that I
really love the reason why I said
garbage though is because I'm torn
because I think whenever you take a
large group of people like Tom was
saying and you typ cast them and now you
got all these people going out into the
workforce saying oh I'm going to tell
you how to talk to Millennials and and I
think human beings at the end of the day
are human beings and maybe some of the
characteristics that that millennial s
get trashed for whether it's the
self-centeredness or the inability to be
managed or thinking you're going to be
CEO the second you graduate from college
those things tend to get magnified as
general General is that even a word you
know thank you um and so I hate that
aspect because what we're seeing in
Millennials is that they've just given
themselves permission to really bring
the things that we all want which is
recognition and feeling a sense of
importance and wanting to make a
contribution they have the they they've
been raised in a environment where that
has been brought to the surface and for
your elders like myself I'm not going to
necessarily lank yank you into this
because you look like you're 30 but we
were I was not raised that way and so it
was a learn skill so I don't like typ
casting everybody but there are
attributes that Millennials have that I
love so I don't know now you know what
it's like to be almost 50 and menopausal
completely
confusing all right great answer know
what it's like to be menopausal but you
know I appreciate that all right let's
move on to our next topic for this one
we're going to be giving away a copy of
the 5sec rule Mel Robins book so if you
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comments we will choose a winner at the
end so
contestants
answers and oh is that the that's the is
the it's garbage man this was a complete
gimmick that I created in order to try
to to get rich because I'm motivated by
money smart that's what that was right
it's good strategy how'd it work um it's
been fantastic actually it's been really
incredible not I mean just because of
the difference that it's making for
people it's been beyond my wildest
dreams frankly really cool excellent Tom
what do you think I'll be really honest
when I first heard the idea I didn't
think it was like a get rich quick
scheme but it did seem too easy and I
was like oh God like when they were
pitching you I was like is it really
like enough meat on that bone the
response that we've gotten from people
who are like this has changed my life it
it's just undeniable like people can say
whatever they want but we alone have had
hundreds and hundreds of comments of
people saying like this changed my life
it's crazy you know the thing and that
was a joke obviously what I was saying
but so the hardest thing for me because
like you I'm so interested in science
and as much as I joke around I'm also a
nerdy kind of serious person so when I
came up with a concept that's so stupid
sounding it was a little weird to talk
about it because I'm basically saying
you can change your life in 5 seconds no
really and know it's not the same as
just do it it's actually a tool and
there's science behind it so it it's on
its face it sounds like the dumbest
Concept in the world but when you get
somebody to try it and they instantly
start breaking the habit of
procrastination it's just like
motivation or anything you're on a fast
right now and so you could tell somebody
go on the is it keto is that how you say
that keto keto keto is that how you say
it keto yeah keto diet yes I don't know
what the keto diet is but I know that
you're on it right now and I saw that
you were eating some sort of uh the how
do you say that shav lamb stuff that
you're eating that was not that was
technically a cheat by the way I didn't
eat well so that was going into the the
the fasting period so during a fast is
water only but you're so you're on water
only I better win cuz you you're
basically delusional at the moment right
so um when when you give somebody a a
formula to follow even if it sounds
simple like yeah go on a fast it'll
cleanse your body you'll be like yeah
that sounds whatever you actually
Implement something that sounds simple
you realize that holy cow these simple
Concepts work they really do we over
complicate everything meditation another
another practice that you have that
you're adamant about it's really simple
most people don't do it but it really
works and I think that some of the most
powerful things in life are the simplest
things I mean I think we all know that
if we were just a little bit more kind
to people particularly our spouses your
marriage would be better I think we know
that the more you cheer for people you
you 100% like that's the only management
philosophy you need cheer for people
that's it assume good attention that's
all you need to know and if you put that
simple idea into practice Yeah lotss of
Harvard scientists will write about why
and there'll be bestsellers that have
written about it but it it does come
down to the smallest stuff that we don't
do and so this is one of these ideas
that making 5-second decisions I think
we all know we overthink and I think we
all know that we have these moments of
intense wisdom and yet within 5 seconds
flat our minds talk us out of it and so
I'm trying I'm desperately trying to
teach as many people as possible that
every every single change comes down to
a 5-second decision and that you can
change everything and that as resigned
as you are or as defeated as you are or
as tired as you are the answer really
is do what you say you're going to do if
your wisdom speaks and you start to talk
just 543 2 1 and push yourself if you
can find power in that tiny moment you
will win every single time and slowly
your life will start to
change nice well said
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here oh my God we got more we got more
aesome we have more number six
kicks and I did not wear mine today all
right still a what do we got here what
are our
answers motivation we're to alike Tom
tell us about kicks to me it's you know
a nice simple question of personal
expression and uh you I I actually
really get into collecting which is
probably bad but from comic books to
kicks like I really enjoy that process
so yeah finding uh some cool kicks and
having something to set your sights on
and go for it you you know it's it's
motivating to me and you know both Tom
and I share an affinity for shoes we
have different taste in shoes I haven't
seen you in glitter ones yet but you
have worn some some with spikes you have
worn some with spikes um what's
interesting as a woman is that when you
take ownership over kind of how you want
to present yourself that is motivating
and powerful and you demonstrate
something and one of the interesting
thing is things about um just the fact
that I tend to wear a lot of high tops
on
stage nine times out of 10 nine times
out of 10 when somebody says something
nasty it's usually somebody complaining
about the sneakers really yes that a
woman shouldn't dress like that and so I
find it very motivating to make personal
choices about how you want to present
yourself so that it demonstrates who you
are and for me that's about authenticity
approachability a sense of fun and you
know that kind of thing and so a
surprise and so that um it's really
interesting it never fails never fails
at
all by that it's great all right let's
move on a woman okay none of the none of
the women here are shocked by that yes
it's Madness let's move on to our next
topic suffering and pain with by the way
that's David of David gogins all right
really the legend how old is he
Goins uh I'm going to guess mid-40s
sounds about right all right contestants
what do we got here uffing in pain
motivating or garbage I don't know where
the strong response from Tom B huge I
think I have to just go and like not do
the same as you all right Mel we have
here let's let's have you start it off
why is suffering and pain garbage
um because we spend too much time there
too many of us have a habit of dwelling
uh in self-inflicted
suffering and it is garbage you don't
have
to all right great Tom what do you think
I think that you only meet yourself in
suffering and while I understand what
you're saying about the way that people
will get themselves in a Twist mentally
and that's super counterproductive um I
think we spend our entire lives moving
away from suffering and once you're able
to put yourself into self-inflicted
suffering like a fast um you really or
working out or running doing a [ __ ]
Marathon like whatever it is like in
those moments you really realize who you
are and you realize how close your
boundaries and your limitations and
where you tap out are like I can't tell
you the number of people that like
started the fast until they got hungry
and then they're like you know back
channeling dming me like what do I do to
actually get to the other side and the
answer is not tolerate that [ __ ] from
yourself like literally not tolerate it
and that's the answer to have a hard
fast bright line about who you are what
you're willing to tolerate from yourself
but you don't know that easy to say
until you have to put it to the test and
then it's like who are you really that's
suffering baby there we well see I think
there's a difference that see you're in
the goggin high right now plus you
haven't eaten in two days am I not like
this all the time though like this you
are pretty intense that is true that is
true but but so there but see I think
you're talking about intentional
suffering versus the unintentional
self-imposed suffering now
let's yes if you want to get really
complicated let's take when you were
obese okay so what category was that in
well so now like oh God I'd never call
myself truly obese because I think
that's unfair to make it seem like I've
clawed my way back from that deficit
many many people have struggled way more
than how happy were you we'll decide if
you were a beast okay maybe not yeah
you're kind of no I've trust me I've
seen obese and um sadly it is almost sad
for me that I've never been obese just
so that I could prove to my so I could
prove myself the clip that will go viral
right there no you're ready for the clip
that's going to go viral I wish I'd been
addicted to heroin because then people
would see like if if it wasn't super
dangerous and really stupid I would get
addicted to heroin just so I could get
back off of it you he ha first like you
would actually try heroin if it wasn't
insanely stupid yes but I recognize how
stupid that is which is why I'm not
going to do it but in terms of in terms
of giving yourself something like a fast
something to prove your level of
discipline yeah it would be pretty
amazing it would be stupid I'm not going
to do it don't panic this reminds me of
like a David bla is that his name moment
yes and what do you think like extreme
motivation garbage oh total motivation
100% right yes because the guy is like
coming up with these problems to solve
like could I possibly be submerged in
ice for 25 hours and still survive that
I I don't your your your wife's going to
come running in here in a minute and
shut this down if I keep pushing the
heroin thing but seriously like do you
think that if you you think that you
could beat an addiction like that yes of
course really of course you're it's been
done right so other people true but I'm
just wise enough to recognize how stupid
that would be and the the devastating
physical emotional and lifestyle effects
that it would have so would I ever
really do it no of course not because
that would be [ __ ] absurd but could I
do it yes of course see I don't think I
could do it I I guess the reason why is
because I maybe I could I I um I've met
too many people that are struggling with
the opioid addiction that turned into a
heroin addiction and I've read too many
studies about the fact that those drugs
completely change your neurop Pathways
and so you're haunted for the rest of
your life with that trigger so it would
be a lifetime of self-discipline I mean
I have a hard enough time truly walking
past the booze between 5 and 8:00 at
night when I say to myself I'm not going
to drink tonight and I don't drink but
it is a haunting for 3 hours straight
and so to sign up for a lifetime where I
would be like that 24 hours oh my
God I think I could do it but I wouldn't
want to try that's an interesting
question you're the kind of guy that I
could see doing something like that like
being that I'm not saying that you
should but I I I I really like you're
the kind of guy that is you want to
inspire people and you want to teach
people and unfortunately in today's
world most people only pay attention
when it's extreme here's the great news
tell me that doesn't hold interest for
me I would never do this for anyone else
ever under any circumstance like that
would really be [ __ ] so do I like
that the things that I've learned are
useful to other people yes but I don't
consider myself a teacher you don't nope
connected to mobile device what does
that mean some technical difficulties
bear with us folks oh that's all right I
thought we were having a call-in show
all of a sudden I'm like we're back to
my radio days come on let's go that's
going to be the next thing is to let
people call into these live that would
be that's an that sorry I've never
that's an interesting question I bet
somebody's done it I bet somebody has
gotten addicted to some type of drug in
order to show people that that you can
get off it be crazy but impressive it
would be totally crazy well I think that
leads into our next topic which is an
interesting one psychedelics
oh oh motivating or garbage all right
um we have Tom's response Mel I'm not
sure well I don't really like them okay
two garbage responses we'll start with
Tom since he was very I I don't have the
courage to find out if it's motivating
so that's the truth because I've never
done it I don't feel I have the right to
say that it's motivating it might be
amazing it might be transformative
life-altering um but I'm too big of a
chicken to find up so so he's definitely
not doing heroin in other words if you
can't take shrooms then you definitely
are not doing her no Let Let There Be
maximum Clarity I'm never actually going
to get addicted to because you don't
like to lose control see the thing about
psychedelics is that that's for somebody
that wants an experience where they want
to go out of control I'm not worried
about losing control that's not what
freaks me out what freaks me out is
permanent brain damage 100% I'm so brain
protective I'm never going to head a
soccer ball I'm never going to do a
kickboxing match like any anything that
has potential brain trauma at the end of
it nope why because it's there's two
things that once they happen I can't
retrograde the loss of my wife and brain
damage you can take money lose a
business all of that whatever doesn't
matter you can build your way back brain
damage that's it done yeah it's true I
remember my dad had um my dad they found
a uh uh what's it called an aneurysm
that hadn't blown up yet and they found
it just ansor he had collapsed on a golf
course he thought he had vertigo they
did one of these scans and they're like
oh no vertical but guess what you have
an aneurysm and we got to take it out
wow and I remember asking him because
he's a doc he said um is this was one of
these 5c moments I I called him or he
called me to tell me that this whole
thing was going down and um I remember
being on the phone with him and he was
explaining that he was going to go have
surgery at the University of Michigan
and they were going to cut his head open
and pull off the top and do all this
stuff to try to get to this aneurism and
I and I had this feeling rise up where I
thought I wonder if he's scared and then
I immediately my mind started saying
don't get him upset like you don't want
that thing to blow like don't be the
reason don't ask him a question that and
that's immediately what I thought like
you you could make this aneurism rupture
if you get him
upset and I went you know what 54321 I
said Dad are you are you scared and he
said you know Mel he said I I uh I've
had a really incredible life he said I I
grew up I got to do what I never thought
I'd do I became a doctor I married your
mom we've we've been together for 50
years you and your brother turned out he
said I've really gotten to do what I've
wanted to do with my life and he said
the only thing that you could ever ask
for is more time and he said you know
watching my dad have a stroke and see
him so debilitated and then caring for
our best friend Susie who died of ALS he
said I would never ever want to live in
that state and so am I scared no he said
I'm really lucky I'm lucky that we found
it I'm lucky that we have a chance to
fix it and I'm lucky that something
didn't happen that completely
debilitated me I'll tell you it was one
of the most intimate conversations I had
ever had with my father I almost didn't
ask the question because I was afraid of
upsetting him I was afraid of the
intimacy as so many of us are of asking
like the scary questions of upsetting
some body and um I learned a lot about
him and that's exactly what his fear was
the same as yours and the surgery went
fine and he's doing great but um yeah I
think it's important to know who you are
and what you
want no questions lovely response would
you like to expand on anything with well
like Tom I've experimented I'm not going
to give you the long laundry list but um
I didn't like them like at the end of
the day um through all the the
experimenting I really at the the end of
the day don't like feeling out of
control and so that the wave that hits
you if you take a psychedelic drug that
would create a majorly stressful unhappy
situation for me at this moment so I
think they're complete garbage but for
those of you that love to be completely
out of control and out of your mind
they're probably very
motivating there you go all right for
our next topic we're going to be giving
away another
prize all right the motivation is
garbage clip you've probably seen we're
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cool because if you seen the clip you
know motivation is garbage and you just
need to take action so let's hear from
our
contestants there it is there it is no
no no nice and easy Tom we'll start with
you um is motivation
garbage no I get how it's meant and it
winds me up to no end in fact where's my
a camera will some are you my a camera
all right let let me just say this right
now if you have any intention of going
to that clip and leaving a comment about
how you're actually motivated and this
woman is dumb because she's saying
motivation is garbage that is to
totally look at the world from how can I
shut things off how can I close my mind
how can I not be open to a piece of
information because the clip is amazing
it's resonated with a lot of people
motivation will let you down at the most
inopportune moments and so to not look
past like just the binary statement of
motivation is garbage which obviously
she's saying to make a point to get
people's attention to not look past that
to the message that she's trying to
convey it winds me up when I get those
comments I want to just like crawl
through the computer screen you do oh I
laugh yeah I laugh cuz you're a sucker
you fell for a headline and you know
what else we know I know anyways you
probably didn't even watch the clip you
just sound it off in the comments and if
you're somebody that does that you are
robbing yourself because you're not
actually trying to learn anything the
point of that clip is to make you
understand that the major mistake that
everybody makes is waiting waiting to
[ __ ] feel like it waiting for
somebody to pick you waiting for the
right time waiting for you to feel
motivated it's not coming for the big
stuff for the hard stuff it requires a
push always has always will nobody is
coming to save your ass it is up to you
and so if you want to change anything
about your life stop sitting around and
wasting your goddamn life and start
pushing yourself whether it's a fast or
it is starting a business or it is
changing how you talk to your spouse or
it's changing the kind of parent that
you are you got one life and all you
need to do is turn on the freaking news
and see the kind of [ __ ] that's going on
in this world it's both amazing and
terrifying you never know when your time
is up but I do know that you've got time
right now to change things things and so
the thing you should change is you
should take 100% responsibility for your
future you should decide what is it that
you really want your life to look like
because you only get one of them and
it's not going to start again but you
could start building your future right
now and that begins the moment that you
realize that you're never going to feel
like doing the things that are hard
you're never going to feel like stepping
out of your comfort zone and the second
that you do the second that you push
through you win you you win because you
see yourself becoming the kind of person
who takes action you see yourself
believing in your ideas you see yourself
disregarding your own excuses that is
the source of confidence it's the
willingness to try it doesn't start with
belief it starts with the push so do
yourself a freaking favor and stop
thinking about all this stuff and stop
commenting and push yourself do
something who's going to win the shirt I
think uh well I guess the shirt
we have a winner Amy B on Facebook you
just won yourself a do shirt oh yeah and
dear audience aren't you glad you tuned
in today because this is some powerful
stuff all right now let's get a time
check from our judges can we keep going
we have several more topics awesome all
right let's keep going next
topic artificial
intelligence where's the one that says
terrifying I'm I'm going to do this one
cuz it's it scares the hell out of me so
artificial intelligence is obviously so
there's an incredible Ted talk I'm sure
you've already seen it about the
biologist from Harvard who talks it's a
he he just gave a talk in Vancouver
where he wrote a a letter to a young
scientist and it's all the things that
he wants scientists to understand and
one of the things that he talks about in
this particular Ted Talk is the fact
that the pace of technology is and you
talk about this all the time is is
eclipsing our ability to keep up with it
that we cannot right now even predict
what the technology will be like 10
years from now artificial intelligence
is going to be the thing that changes
the next 10 years of Our Lives when I
when you think about just the technology
of talking to Siri or the augmented
reality of of what they just released on
Instagram or what they've had on
Snapchat or you think about the learning
intelligence of of these apps that we
have that start to serve up things to
you this is only going to get
exponentially more significant in terms
of your daytoday life that's going to
have profound changes for jobs for how
people behave for what's required of you
how much you're relying on machines and
so you know it scares me because I don't
know what's coming and I don't know I
mean I know Elon Musk is worried enough
about it that he's starting to dig into
the ethics behind it but it's exciting
because it makes life easier and it's
exciting because it will help doctors
diagnose you because artificial
intelligence and can crunch 50,000
records at once and then using
predictive modeling and the Watson
technology to IBM help with the
diagnosing of your particular cancer
which is amazing but there are
implications that I can't even wrap my
brain around in terms of humanity and
ethics and that scares the hell out of
me fair enough I think a lot of people
live there I think a lot of people if
they can't understand it then there's um
an automatic bias to the negative that
people to I mean just think about it
from an algorithmic perspective as a
human being to make sure that that thing
rustling in the bush uh isn't a lion
instead of someone that you love and
care about very much we immediately go
to negative assumptions but um for
anybody who's read miio kaku's book on
basically um what the future looks like
and he talks about the different
classifications of societies and I
forget it's like a level five Society
can harness the power of a star um
that's where it starts to get
interesting and I'm telling people look
Beyond like yes it's going to cure
illnesses yes it's going to do a lot of
amazing things yes that it's going to
change jobs but it's like look beyond
that to when as a species we're able to
fully transcend biology live forever oh
my God yes it's going to be want to do
do you want 100% you do body who says
that they don't want to that's total
that's crazy talk because all you've
ever known is life well I'm also going
to be trapped like by the time they
figure that out I'm going to be 80 so
I'm going to be in the diaper and like
everybody else is going to be of a party
for a life let let me let me Enlighten
you to the Future that's coming so first
of all every year that you live your
life is going to be getting better so by
the time you're talking to a person that
can hardly believe that a Ford Focus can
self Park I see these commercials so
like where you're going with all of this
okay so tell me what's coming yeah so
every year it's going to get a little
bit better so by the time you're I mean
you're talking better me meaning like
the botox is better so I don't R you
won't even have to think about Botox
because first of all with a skin gun
you'd literally be able to do a facial
peel it can determine how deep to go cuz
each layer of the skin does different
things and they'll be able to 3D print
the skin on you this stuff is amazing
the world is only going to get better my
friends technology is a one-way Street
towards hope and prosperity so if I can
just balance people out know you're
going to go in and into like some sort
of tube and step out as gag gag gag Goin
Goin Goin Goin whatever the hell his
name is yes not quite but I like where
it be like Freaky Friday only you know
with you and gagan go I am hopefully not
I think it's time to move on to our next
topic all right yeah I this one's going
off the rails all right next topic who
sex I didn't see that coming this is not
a family show ladies and gentlemen yeah
all right Mel we'll start with you it's
amazing it gets better especially it
gets
better well having been married now I'm
having a hot flesh having been married
for 20 years one would think that it
would suck to only have sex with one
person for the rest of your life but
it's actually pretty incredible and it
gets better all the time all right great
answer Tom and it's work it's not
natural to be monogamous you got to want
it you got to be committed to it you got
to like be intentional about it but it
it's
amazing great nice um I'll just take it
from a neurochemistry standpoint it is
amazing it uh the The Rush from
vasopressin which makes you feel
connected and pair bonding and trust and
all that wonderful stuff to just the the
physical sensation which is utterly
astonishing so it is Nature's greatest
TI you should try it on
psychedelics I don't know I've been told
it's not that great but I'm just kidding
all right hey you guys pick the topic
toic I love it next topic hater I was
told the only thing we wouldn't talk is
politics okay haters what do we got Tom
why are haters motivating um it's my
8020 rule so 80% of the time you should
spend it in looking at the things that
are beautiful the people that support
you all that good stuff but 20% of the
time knowing that people out there want
you to fail is actually incredibly
potent for me like the moments where
it's hardest the moments where I'm in
real pain those are the times where only
the darkness will do and focusing on the
beautiful things that I'm trying to
create it's just not enough for me at
those moments I really do need to know
that somebody wants me to fail they want
to drag me down so that I can push back
against it all right now what do you
think um well I find haters really
motivating and I put them in a couple C
atories I'd put like there's a whole
especially when when you're in a kind of
a public job whether you're on
television or you put stuff out online
there's a lot of trolls out there so
there's a lot of nasty people that are
probably living in their parents
basement that have nothing better to do
than just slang garbage online so those
folks I don't find motivating I find
them kind of sad but the true haters the
people that engage you intellectually
that don't like your ideas that you say
something and it triggers something I
find that so motivating because if you
trigger somebody else there's a kernel
of Truth to what you said because most
of us don't care about the things that
that don't matter to us you know you
could call me a lousy parent and I would
be non plused at all because I don't
believe that but if you you know I don't
even know what you could say that would
rattle me at this point but um if you
when when you have somebody that really
engages you with your ideas it shows me
and is very motivating because I'm
reaching people I've got ideas that are
provocative you don't want to just
listen to people that say the same old
[ __ ] that you believe otherwise you're
not going to grow when somebody says
something whether it's Tom that says
something about you know us living
forever that pisses me off and scares me
there's that moment where I hate him and
then there's that moment of expansion
where I stop and consider wow what if
he's right and so I think it's a natural
part of the process of growing and when
you get that kind of push back
particularly when somebody engages you
intellectually as a hater what that
tells me is they're at step one of
changing their own opinion now they
might not never come fully to your side
but you've made them stop and consider
and react you've interrupted the
autopilot and that's really cool now I
also love when you do things that people
agree with and they're inspired by and
they are empowered by so that the
response is more positive I certainly
prefer that but I don't necessarily see
the haters as negative I see it
motivating both great answers I will
award you each 1,000 points wow the
first points of the game just made them
up right now all right next
topic The Matrix all right wait we're
giving away a shirt impact Theory shirt
for this one so be sure to put your
answers in the comments and you can win
Tom we'll of course start with you
because we know this is near and dear to
your heart yeah I mean this movie is to
me the perfect metaphor for what it
means to be a human so the Matrix is the
mind uh you have all these limiting
beliefs that either you've adopted
yourself or been handed to by society
and the people that you love and care
about you and all that um and once you
can get past those Shu them off then you
see the way the world really works and
then you can do just a lot more more
than you probably ever thought possible
all right great Mel your response um
well I'm just going to say garbage
because I like it you know didn't you
say it was a documentary well that's a
shirt yeah yeah that's what I thought I
saw you wearing a shirt that said it the
Matrix was a documentary very true um I
honestly I saw the Matrix so long ago
that I can't really remember all that
much and if I had to be told on asked on
the spot what's the difference between
the red and the blue pill I wouldn't
know uhoh yes so I
off the set right now I feel like I need
to rewatch the movie the next time I see
you so I can actually talk turkey with
you it it it is a great movie but
certainly don't mind that most people
probably don't remember it the way that
I do so we'll have to hold a screening I
think yes and invite all friends and
family okay oh my gosh you know what the
next time we do a show together can we
do a screening of the Matrix where you
see Tom's head in the background in the
front row you know like that show where
they have that yes do Mystery Science
Theater with that and you do the
commentary that would be fun let's do
that all right we have a winner who got
the impact Theory t-shirt Jessica T
Jessica congratulations you just won the
shirt thanks for playing next
topic cat
videos motivation or
Garbage Tom is going to say garbage and
Mel motivation Mel Why cat videos
motivated um well I I I just find them
really funny and if you intentionally
watch them as long as you're doing it on
purpose not for procrastination I just
find them motivating because I get a
short burst of dopamine I laugh it makes
me love my cat a little bit more not
going to lie uh I do have a dog too but
um anyway I don't know I think they're
kind of fun all right little break
motivating tom cats are like inviting an
animal into your house that does not
care about your well-being at all like I
literally do not understand people that
have cats that is some Madness like what
about cat videos H we can talk cats
that's okay cat videos waste of time
mildly amusing at best uh I literally
can't believe that cats have taken over
the Internet like that's crazy town to
me but so yeah cuz they're more
intelligent than dogs that's why is that
it cuz I like to think with intelligence
comes compassion and one thing that cats
lack is some compassion there's nothing
that's not intelligent see dogs are just
I have an Australian Shepherd too so I
have a very smart dog he gives less
shits about me than the cat let's put it
that way we have a mun cat a rescue cat
who I think is so happy that somebody
rescued him from the cage that he's not
going anywhere um I don't know I guess I
just feel like dogs are happy and lovely
and loyal and always there with you but
cats have a personality I got to respect
that I respect the fact that they get
angry at you I respect the fact that
they're like just cuz I am feline and I
am of the animal world does not mean you
get to treat me like that wow yes that
was good yes thank you I made that up I
like that all right before we go to our
next topic I want to remind everyone
that you can win our grand prize by
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to our nice penultimate category wow
social media oh
oh God that's a hard
one Mel your
response oh I feel like I'm so
wishy-washy on all of these things
that's okay well I'm very conflicted
about social media okay well let's start
I I was just at a party last night for
my we were back in Boston it was the
last game for my daughter's varsity
lacrosse game and we were at a big after
game party after they won at somebody's
house and it was a big potluck with the
whole team and and there were literally
30 girls sitting in a circle with their
phones
out and I know the studies I and and in
fact Instagram is the one that causes
the greatest depression because it's so
curated and there filters and it's
Visual and I am really worried about the
consuming side of social media and even
and I know better and I find myself
getting jealous like I'll see you guys
doing all this cool stuff and these
incredible sets and I'm like [ __ ] you
know Tom is crushing it and I'm I'm I'm
a loser I'm behind I need to get going I
need to I need to get a game show I need
to like I need to be doing more more
more more more right we all feel it I
don't care how old you are and so in
that regard I think it's garbage I think
we're going to look back on this era the
way we did with smoking and say were we
crazy to let the cigarette companies
advertise to children were we crazy yes
we were because it was addictive and
because there was no kind of social
conscience con like Consciousness about
it and so I worry about this
tremendously both for my own mental
health and for my kids and the kind of
people that they will turn out to be as
a business person I love the fact that I
can connect with people I love the fact
that and as a human being I love the
fact that I can connect with people I
love that people can comment I love the
real-time feedback I love that we can go
live and be connected to people around
like that is the power of it to do good
to connect to um facilitate your dreams
to get you information it is the single
most revolutionary force in the world I
mean look at look at the Arab Spring and
all the revolutions that happened that
were fueled by social media look at the
way that Manchester after the bombing at
the Ariana Grande concert immediately
social media like uh just just got
together and they were putting up free
housing for people and Facebook has now
got the get so there's pieces to this
that are so important for us as a
society
and as individuals I'm terrified for all
of us so I don't know what the answer is
all right great answer there we go
whoops we do have one more category
you're Tom what's your answer um
I optimism is is my default setting so
um I certainly understand your concerns
and I think if I had kids maybe I would
be more concerned um but social media
has only given to me it's never taken
anything away and that's something
saying that who has people that write
him and say I'm an idiot I'm a Fool
whatever but like the overwhelming
number of people um are connecting with
each other helping each other um they're
able to reach out to people that
otherwise they wouldn't be able to I've
been able to connect with people that I
never would have been able to and when I
when I think back to how for lack of a
better term landlocked I felt as a kid
like not knowing how to reach out to
somebody not knowing like how to connect
or get out of Tacoma it was like I felt
so helpless and now it's I mean Wes is
here and Wes and I connected on social
and there's Ibrahim we connected on
social I mean literally all of our
interns are people that we met socially
first and they've become real people in
my life and I think that's the one
criticism people normally leverage
against social media and say Well
they're not real relationships well they
are if you pursue them and so like to me
the the amount that it's given me is TR
tremendous and the amount that it's
taken away is so infinitesimal as to not
be relevant it's true like if you think
about like what would your life be like
if all of a sudden all of that
disappeared the lack of connection like
the inability to find the information
that you need the the the like as you
said like that sense of isolation that
so many of us can feel I agree with you
that at the end of the day the benefits
outweigh a millionfold I just get really
concerned concerned about our individual
psychology and not just for the kids for
the
adults yeah all right let's go to our
last category now we have to announce
our winner Leanne on Facebook
congratulations you've won the grand
prize wow Le the top liked comment that
you want our contestants to answer and
the topic is genius sorry it was a
random choice but we like your topic
like uhoh the topic is Gen genius
motivating or Garbage you don't have to
get them you can just respond all right
all right Mel genius is being a genius
motivation or garbage I think it's
garbage because to me that um when when
I hear the word genius I think about
somebody that has a particular
expertise and to me what's really
motivating is people that have and I
know Tom I think believes the same thing
too have a growth mindset meaning you're
really focused on the effort so you're
not focused on a knowledge Bank you're
focused on the effort the effort the
effort always trying always getting
better and to me genius is sort of a
state that you reach on a topic so I
think it's garbage to try to go there
way better to cultivate this ability to
keep working harder and harder all right
great answer bless you Tom um so here's
the really bad news I think that genius
is real and I think that there are some
people that are are just and I'll Define
it as the ability to process data very
rapidly and there are some people they
can just process data very very rapidly
and if you took somebody who was a
genius and somebody who wasn't and they
put in equal amount of work and effort
and all that the genius is just going to
win there's no two ways about it um but
having said that the number of people
that qualify for that and then actually
do anything with it is so small and I
think people let themselves certainly I
did I let myself get trapped by that and
I felt like well I wasn't born a genius
at anything and so that felt like a
death sentence for a very long time and
I found myself doing weird emotional
contortions to try to be genius at
something just so I could feel good
about myself and what do you do when
it's like you really like run the math
and if you run the math boys and girls
guess what you're average right that was
a hard Awakening for me and so to
realize that just mathematically
speaking I was average and if there was
anything that like running the wrong
math why do you say that well calculate
the odds that you're even born sure but
you're playing that against all people
in the same scenario so that sort of
washes to zero no it doesn't we're a
relativistic species we're looking at
how we fit people around but you were
just saying earlier even on social media
like you're looking at other people and
you feel that steam but you know as well
as I do that the power is in here and
that based on your ancestry based on
your unique DNA based on the fact that
you have two brains that's right two
brains from the recent research from the
Human Genome Project they've actually
figured out that when you're being
formed in an embryonic State the clump
of tissue that
separates when your brain is formed one
clunk becomes your brain one Clump
becomes your gut yes the same DNA that
forms your brain forms your gut in fact
your gut has more unique DNA in it than
your brain than the rest of your entire
body it has a the same neurotransmitters
that your brain has so when we talk
about body intelligence there is now
crazy amazing science that explains why
you feel things before you think them
and so between your situational
intelligence the experience of your life
the unique DNA that you have that is
unique to you you bring this totally
unprecedented amount of wisdom to the
experience of life there's never going
to be another you never and so the
secret to life I believe is having the
clarity to actually hear yourself to
hear that unique wisdom that that makes
you you and to listen to it to act on it
to take action on it because what makes
Tom tick is different than what makes me
tick and you could measure US based on
money or based on how many people work
for us or how long we've been married or
how what our grades are all this
artificial [ __ ] the thing that truly
matters the people that you admire most
they all have one thing in common
they've all figured out how to listen to
their own wisdom you think Jay-Z holds a
caucus before he makes a business
decision I don't think so neither does
Oprah Winfrey or Bill Gates or Richard
Branson or any of these people that you
hold in high regard as you should or
whether it's a poet or a writer whomever
you love and adore they have one
characteristic in common they've figured
out who they are by listening to their
instincts and taking action on it and so
can you that's the answer passion and
and living an Engaged life and and
figuring out what you're supposed to do
it starts in here not out
there word I'll give you a slightly
different take uh there's nothing
special about you you are average in
every way conceivable and your life is
going to be the answer to one question
what are you willing to become and what
price are you willing to pay to get
there that's it you are a blank canvas
my friends and you can become anything
you want but that dual brain that she's
talking about every [ __ ] bu has it
everyone you love everyone you hate they
all start with the same boring lump of
Flesh spread out yes from their head
down to their gut how wonderful but now
it's going to become a question if you
want to be a snowflake
snowflake then you better start
synthesizing a lot of [ __ ]
information read a lot of stuff watch a
lot of things experience a lot and then
have the guts to have an individual
reaction but to think that you were born
special is a mistake is that
clear not to me I think that that I I
think that is the biggest hunk of
horseshit I've ever heard in my entire
life yes that was not that was garbage
you have something unique and amazing to
offer to the world that nobody else can
do it is your job the purpose of your
life is to figure out who you are and
the way that you do that is you tune out
you tune out the world and you tune in
here yeah you you got to go read you got
to go read you got to watch a ton of
videos you got to tune into the show
every week you've got to explore you've
got to experience you got to fail but
then you've always got to calibrate it
against what are your instincts saying
what energizes you what depletes you
that's it's really that simple follow
the things that energize you follow the
things that you're naturally curious
about don't buy into the [ __ ] he's
telling you because you are you are not
only unique I think it you're BL Miracle
the fact that you were born who you were
born and there's a reason why you're
here and it's time you start to figure
it
out you build yourself Brick by Brick
like anybody and if you want to be
special you must become special that's
the joy of life is to decide who you
want to become and become that person
doesn't matter where you start doesn't
matter who you were born to doesn't
matter what your DNA is nothing you can
become anyone you want to become so I
have no doubt that you can become
special I have no doubt that you can do
amazing things that other people simply
believe are not possible but it's a
choice and it's based on your actions
and what you do and your willingness to
suffer and grow and fail and learn from
it and get back up and Claw your way to
the
top but it's in your control so the
current state of your life is all your
fault whether that's good or bad but you
can become anything you want just have
to set your mind to it and with that
we're going to have to WRA it up cuz I
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