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hey everybody welcome to another episode
of after impact I am your host Tom Bilu
and I'm here with none other than agent
Smith Mr Bilu what is up dude you ready
for
goggin I know you're ready for goggin I
am more than ready for been waiting for
this for weeks I have I'm excited about
this one yeah you are so uh welcome to
Facebook live everyone to the podcast to
YouTube uh this is after impact the show
where Tom and I go deep into the episode
of impact theory that launched this week
and this week was David Goggins who you
probably don't know but he's about to
blow your mind um very simply he's
arguably the most he's the toughest man
in the world say yeah dunzo yep he's a
Navy SEAL and a Prof he's an endurance
athlete he's done all kinds of races
that um are just insane uh if you watch
the episode he'll talk about those talk
about training for those um or not
training is the case maybe or just
jumping into them and seeing if he can
100 m survive literally survive it's
that serious
um what's most impress impressive though
about him is his is his mind his mindset
his determination and that's what we're
really going to dive into so we can kick
it off there why why are you so excited
about David goggin dude goggin really
shows the limits of the human mind and I
think a lot of people stop for sure
myself included a lot of people stop shy
of what they're actually capable of
doing and he shows that the boundary
isn't like a little farther than you
think it's like really far really far
from where you think it is and the man
ran a 100m race around a track so a mile
track like imagine just running that for
24 hours um to reach 100 miles in 24
hours which was what he had to do to
qualify for another Soul destroying race
he was like 250 lbs and he had 4 days
notice for the race so basically totally
unprepared and just ran it it is one of
the most amazing Stories you've got to
watch the episode and hear it directly
from him but it is unbelievable so this
guy reminds me of what I'm capable of
and that for that I will be eternally
grateful for him and even just during
the prep man I was getting [ __ ]
excited like that kind of stuff amps me
up to think that there's a lot more in
my tank than I think and that I can push
past it and he obviously inspired the
fast which we're on day three of the
fast right now so mad love to my other
fasters in the room
uh and Goin has gotten me through you
are not fasting that's just not how I
like to express my self-discipline fair
enough how do you like to express
yourself this well I do dry anuary
that's one we talked about um I've done
triathlons the last two years which was
just something I wanted to see if I
could do nice um that's yeah more more
stuff like that hey Triathlon is fully
legit that anyway yeah tell us about the
fast how's it going talk to people about
why you're doing it um go a little bit
deeper into that yeah so I'm doing a
3-day fast there are several other
people here and in fact I'm sure some of
you in the community right now are
fasting with us uh oh we didn't take our
blood levels before this that's all
right we'll take it shortly Hereafter um
and I'm doing it really for two reasons
one is just to get Summer ready so it's
a part of our summer ready hashtag
summer ready it yep so that's our our
Summer Prep um and then the other I just
want to suffer and so goggin really
brought it home and I knew I wanted to
do the fast leading into getting ready
for summer and when I started prepping
for goggin I was like oh we we have to
do it around the release of this episode
if for nobody else than me by the way so
that I will be um just totally submerged
in his mindset during the hardest part
which I expected to be sort of night two
um which is usually the hardest and so
waking up yesterday morning at the end
of night two and getting to watch his
episode which I think I watched with
everybody else out there like the second
it dropped on uh iTunes Stitcher go to
Stitcher rate and review um and it was
awesome it was like exactly what I
needed so um staying focused on the
positive nature of the suffering that
you're doing it to suffer um and both
times the last two times that I fasted
I've really wanted Advil because I've
had a headache and the first time I
didn't do it because I was afraid there
were calories in it and the second time
I had looked to find out there are no
calories in Advil you'd be happy to know
um but I just couldn't bring myself to
take it I was like this is part of the
point is to suffer and how are the
headaches this time much much better I
know how to do keto now which made the
transition like I came straight off of
Christmas the last time I did a fast so
I'd been eating nothing but sugar it was
amazing amazing and fun but then
transitioning into a fast is brutal
because your brain is just screaming for
glucose yeah so I I did it a little more
intelligently this time it was much more
manageable yeah it's interesting you
talk about how watching the episode is
keeping you motivated through this fast
and um goggin touches on motivation a
little bit and I know visualization is
key to him but really he says that
motivation is going to come and go and
it's about drive you got to have the
drive so tell me about that love that
yeah how do you cultivate the drive
wow you just like pulled a a Switcheroo
right at the last second making this
nearly impossible impossible to answer
um how do you cultivate
Drive part number one is identity I want
to be a certain somebody so badly
that I'm I just have to live in I have
to act in accordance with that belief
like that's just critical for me and I
spend a lot of time cultivating my
identity that's huge for me and then the
other is I say things out loud which
helps a lot so I tell people hey I'm
going to do this fast I did that whole
rant where I was like do you really
think that I would come out here say all
the things that I'm saying and then
buckle for any reason during the fast
right knowing that I'm essentially
putting a gun to my head and that for me
to back out for any reason would just be
absolutely [ __ ] insane like I would
never tolerate that in myself I hope you
guys wouldn't tolerate that for me
Community certainly would not tolerate
that like that's why I do it that's why
I say stuff out loud that's why I want
people to know what I'm doing um what
I'm up to so that I can be held
accountable and having a group of people
that hold you accountable is really
really important and then you have to
have a future that is so compelling to
you that you're willing to push and
drive and suffer to get
there and that's one thing that I think
that people miss a lot is that notion of
really cultivating a compelling future a
vision of yourself that is so exciting
for you that you're willing to suffer
and do all that and I just know there's
a truth about human nature which is the
people that really accomplish are the
ones that keep going they are willing to
suffer they're willing to drive past
boredom they're willing to face
inadequacies fears all of that like they
just keep going and so that is being
that person is so compelling and so
interesting and what we're trying to
build here is so important to me for
sure and I believe important to the
world so it's like okay if I know to
accomplish that thing which I'm really
[ __ ] excited about I've got to become
a different person cuz you know me my
fundamental belief is you've already
gone as far as your current skill set is
going to take you so you've got to push
past it you've got to get better you've
got to get tougher and unless you
actively do things to suffer you're
you're just not going to get tougher so
all of that wrapped together that is
drive you want something so badly you're
just going to keep going until you get
it yeah and David Goggins talks about
how uh you really have to take the time
do the Deep introspection to look at
yourself and figure out what it is that
you want and what do you want to be
which and he has a great story behind
that I mean his backstory which we
haven't even talked about yet you've
seen the episode is he didn't start out
with he had no special talent he even
had like a a heart arhythmia or
something dude he had a hole in his
heart the size of a poker chip that's
serious a poker chip y he ran 135 mile
races with a hole in his heart the size
of a poker chip that's Madness and
growing up he was over
he was uh subject to all kinds of
bullying and racism at his school and he
said he one day just had to decide that
this is not what I want to be but you
talk about this in the episode but I'd
love to um kind of reiterate this is
instead of going away from the adversity
he just went toward more suffering so he
was already suffering right this is a
lot of people external things are
happening to you and you're suffering
this is something we actually talked
about yesterday in our game show
motivation or Garbage right right
there's a difference between choosing to
suffer and then things actually
happening to you that are beyond your
control um but I think what he did is he
chose to suffer right and that that
empowered him because through that
process he could learn to grow and he
could learn to get mentally tough to
deal with anything because then the
world's going to throw things at you
that are outside of your control so how
do you overcome them how do you get
through them yeah I mean that that to me
is the most fascinating part about his
story is what he calls the
accountability mirror and he started
shaving his head I think he said when he
was 13 16 16 so he was like I'm staring
at myself in the mirror every day every
day every day and I did not like what I
saw and he realized what he had to do
was toughen up and dude that is my
advice for a lot of people out there you
have to toughen up and you you just have
to expect more from yourself man like
you really do you have to hold yourself
to a higher standard like and gogin was
willing to look in the mirror and say
I'm not enough and I need to toughen up
and he said I considered myself the
softest man that God had ever created
but he knew he could become the hardest
man God had ever created if he was
willing to put in the work and so he
looked at the world and found something
that he believed was the toughest thing
that you could do as a person which was
to um join the Navy Seals and to go
through hell week and all of that he had
to do it three times cuz he kept getting
medically bounced back um he completed
it twice almost completed it the third
time which I guess was technically the
second time and so that that's just like
absolute Madness in my opinion to be
able to do what is considered like the
hardest training ever and do it three
times and the third time that he did it
they said if you get medically bounced
again we're not going to let you go back
through it and so he ended up having to
tape his shins cuz he had stress
fractures he started with stress
fractures in his shins and a hernia and
he had to make it through and there's no
rest for like 6 months so it's not even
just leading up to hell week my wife is
crawling into frame please tell me we
see her somewhere this is amazing wow is
it really that quiet well I apologize hi
baby um so that is just utterly utterly
astonishing to me somebody that can do
that that's willing to say I don't like
what I see I want to become something
better I'm going to
force myself to toughen up that's what's
so great about his story man he was not
born genetically gifted he wasn't raised
in like some perfect environment that
taught him really how to be tough he got
tired of hating who he saw in the mirror
yeah and that's something you know my
820 rule men that is something that
people just don't allow themselves
they're always trying to give themselves
breaks they're always trying to cut
themselves slack and at some point
without destroying yourself you have to
be able to say I'm I'm I refuse to
accept who I am I'm going to become
something a better version of myself
more empowered more powerful and if I
have to suffer to get there then I'll
suffer to get there and he just did
whatever it took God I love this guy but
he also did it I think because he
realized that life is going to be hard
already had life his life had been hard
for him and the only instead of hiding
from it the only way to get through it
was to just toughen up yeah he said the
best thing that ever happened to him was
he went for help and help did not come
right so you know it the um the racism
had gotten so bad at his school that
finally he just could not people were
threatening him and painting on his car
and his binders and everything he just
couldn't take anymore and he goes to the
principal and the principal doesn't help
and he said at that moment he realized
you know I've I've looked to my dad I've
looked to my mom I've looked to the
schools no one's coming to rescue me
yeah so if I'm going to get rescued I'm
going to have to rescue myself and this
is I said in the episode this is that
thing about kids that really scares me
like you want to give them this
beautiful amazing life but in protecting
them from things you make them soft and
I I don't know if this is true in fact
if somebody out there knows man I
somehow got it into my head as a kid
that there were these kids where I grew
up that I think they were um on a
reservation so they were Native
American and they had broken the law and
the tribe said don't send them to
juvenile hall or whatever let us do what
what is happening um let us do what we
would traditionally do which is take
them out to the Wilderness and make them
survive for like a year on their own and
I want that to be true so badly but I've
tried looking it up to see like did I
just imagine that so I'm not sure but
that cuz they were like 14 or 15 and if
my memories right they dropped them off
in
Alaska and literally just like in the
wilderness figure it out and if you make
it back awesome and if you don't well
then so be
it that's amazing that's pretty gnarly
that's yeah that's badass though like I
and I know about myself I couldn't do
that to a kid but I think it's amazing
so what do you do with that yeah I'm not
entirely sure all right let's uh let's
go to our Facebook live audience we have
some questions here this one's from
Michael Foster uh do you yeah do you
have a version of goggin his alter ego
that propels you to achieve things that
are painful I think we' talked about
this before have we I think when we did
after impact with Terell Owens we T
another person who constructed an alter
ego that's right created to I thought
was really cool yeah um I don't I need
one do you want one do you think that's
do you think that's important do you
think people should do that it just
sounds some people should do it maybe
like it's clearly worked for the people
that have done it I just don't it if
that feels necessary for you do it like
people have clearly gotten amazing
things out of out of doing it goggin's
not the least of which um I've never
gone there like I've always thought of
it just a little bit differently which
is I'm actually trying to change myself
and I'm trying to be able to tap into
that toughness and that was really my
thing and that business helped me with
that I was not tough like as a kid at
all and so learning to toughen up
learning to get harder like that was a
big deal for me and um but I never
thought to build an alter ego all right
so yeah that wasn't my way of handling
it but obviously seems to have worked
really well for the two that you just
mentioned definitely here's a question
from jumani he says uh goggin said that
selft talk was one of the things that
got him to do what he does do you think
the 8020 rule for the darkness is
critical in selft talk and how would you
utilize the darkness in selft talk 100%
amazing question Jani um so I do think
that the darkness plays an absolutely
critical role and there are times where
the beautiful things in your life will
get you there and it's all you need I
think 80% of the time that's where you
can live but 20% of the time you really
have to tap into
and let's so I've talked endlessly about
like the people that want you to fail
but now let's talk about self-hatred
because Goan showed how powerful that
can be but it's self-hatred from the
perspective of believing you can change
anything about yourself but your level
of dissatisfaction has to hit a
crescendo it has to hit a point where
you're just not going to [ __ ] take it
anymore like you're not okay with where
you are you're not okay with what you're
capable of you're not okay with how you
feel inside you're not okay with what
you see like it's not okay anymore and I
feel like in society we've taught people
not to do that and that is too their
detriment now once you let that become
corrosive and self-destructive and you
either forget that you can change
anything or don't believe it then
looking at how you're not good enough
like if you aren't thinking I'm not good
enough yet you're in trouble if you just
think permanently and forever I'm not
good enough it will be a corrosive
technique it will totally ruin you
you've got to fix mindset address that
first but once you have a growth mindset
and you're willing to say I'm not good
enough yet I am just simple as I'm not
good enough yet and now I'm going to do
whatever it takes to improve myself
because I'm not willing to live a life
where I was shy of expressing my
potential and that's why I open every
[ __ ] episode of inside Quest and I
even I'm afraid that I'll just say the
words and people won't feel them but the
the every show opens with you were here
my friend which is a [ __ ] reference to
the Matrix for those who don't know that
you were here my friend because like me
you know that human potential is nearly
Limitless but having potential and
actually doing something with it are not
the same most people have all this
amazing latent potential they could do
insanely cool stuff but they break and
if I can just without naming names
several people reached out to me in the
DM and were like I started the fast but
how do I see this through and how do you
see how how do you see it through you
don't stop like there is no magic you
don't allow yourself to stop because you
make that demand of yourself because you
like there's no one to hide from like
for instance I'm taking my blood because
I want to see like what's happening and
I want to make sure that my ketones are
producing and I want people to know like
I'm not in the [ __ ] back room like
eating a ding-dong And you can know that
for two reasons one it's in my blood and
there's nowhere to with that and then
two what would it matter if I trick
other people I'll know like every time I
look in the mirror I'll know and that's
part of the reason that I didn't do the
Advil cuz it's like I know like some
little voice in me was like you'd have
to asterisk the fast like maybe you can
still count it but there's the [ __ ]
asterisk like just no two ways about it
and that like having something in you
that you believe that you want for
yourself like that is critical and
that's how you see the fast through yes
it sucks like who got into this thinking
that it's not going to suck like it's
going to suck the whole point is to find
out who you are the whole point is to go
wow this really sucks and do I want to
be this person badly enough that I'm
willing to push through and if you don't
at least own it but don't try to hide
from it don't sketch out don't be
confused like you didn't you didn't man
up simple as yeah uh Tom mentioned
inside Quest back there but what he
meant was in theory just just to remind
the audience there he is on the third
day of his fast but I I don't make
excuses I [ __ ] up I'll have to put
money into the cookie jar which brings
us to the cookie jar yeah talk about
that it's a pretty cool concept so
goggin's notion is he's done all this
amazing stuff in his life and all of
those are deposits in the cookie jar so
at a moment like when he's done 70 miles
and has now broken both of his feet has
shin splints um urinated blood and
defecated on himself because he couldn't
walk the 20 ft to the portapotty um he
stand yeah he was so spent yeah
lightheaded and yeah
and like any one of those things stops
everybody else and goggin realized that
he to accomplish his goal CU he had to
finish um he had to finish 100 miles in
24 hours so he'd been running around
this track and he was going to run out
of time if he didn't get going so
finally realizes okay I need to address
one issue at a time I need to eat I need
to blah blah blah finally gets back up
he's walking and then realizes his wife
at the time tells him um at your current
pace you're not going to finish on time
so he's got to now run the remaining 19
miles on broken feet and shinsplints and
now miles is a lot anyway just going out
for it's almost a whole another Marathon
so to do almost a whole another marathon
on broken feet shin splints um with
feces on you y staining urine and blood
down your leg I mean it's just like nuts
and so at that moment he he starts
pulling items out of the cookie jar and
some of the items were you finished um
hell week twice um you finished all the
Navy SEAL stuff you were willing to kick
down doors when there were people on the
other side with you know that wanted you
dead um and had the weapons to make that
a reality you um who I think the exact
way he said it was who else would have
gotten back up after um you know
breaking their feet and all that you
would um who would start running to make
sure that they finish you would like
nobody else would do this you were the
baddest mofo on the planet like period
and those were all his items in the
cookie jar so that he could remember who
he is and I love that statement to
remember who you are cuz I think people
forget yeah like you have to remember
and just recognize that that's the human
mind right from you can go from feeling
like being stud to feeling like a total
loser in like 30 seconds it is so
surreal and then once you realize that
that is the Matrix that's what I'm
talking about that moment where you can
swing so dramatically from one to the
other that's the Matrix and once you
realize you get to pick are you the
baddest [ __ ] around or are you
weak it's a choice and so for him the
cookie jar is a way of remembering to
make the right choice I love that and I
think for people who are ambitious who
are always trying to improve her looking
at their inadequacies and saying how do
I get better it can be easy to forget
where you've come from and what you've
accomplished to get that far so what do
you recommend for people to mentally
build that cookie jar I mean write it
down if you have to like literally keep
a list like these are going to be my
1520 go-to moments where I really showed
up and if you only have one or two then
write those one or two and say like I'm
going to keep doing things to add to my
cookie jar and it gives you a way it's
like gamifying your internal dialogue it
gives you a way to say like this fast
for me is another thing in the cookie
jar right um the having a headache
during a fast like that's a cookie in
the cookie jar like doing all the things
to push through doing a double episode
with the flu that's a [ __ ] cookie jar
moment right so it's like hey you've got
to show up and play in those moments
because those are the moments that
you're going to be proud of like those
are the moments that that give you a
deposit in the jar so doing the hard
things do the hard things like that's
suffer do the hard things that's where
you earn credibility with yourself going
to the gym right getting you know when
you stopped before you absolutely had to
and when you really [ __ ] pushed
you're never going to be proud no matter
what I tell you you're not going to be
proud of the moments where you stop too
soon but you'll really be proud of the
times that like I remember one time
having to just sit in my car cuz I had
done legs so hard that I was like and
there's this weird delay with legs where
it was like 20 minutes later and I was
like if I get up I may vomit or just
straight fall over so I literally just
had to sit there and I was like wow this
really sucks but now I'm proud of this
one because I obviously pushed it that
hard yeah I want to go back to the
darkness so you talked about um having a
bit of self-hatred to look nakedly at
the things you're not good at and then
to work on them but for goggin the
darkness is also external it's something
that he projects on other people right
like I'm gonna take your soul
so talk a little bit about that and um
and and do you use that yourself it's is
that the rage part of your beauty and
rage
equation it's I do use it but not the
way he does
um I find that it manifests itself at
the times of like
oddly my deepest compassion so I'll be
looking at somebody like the people that
wrote in and said oh God confession time
so the people that wrote in and said
like I can't do it I was like I get it
man I really get it like when you hit
that wall of suffering and you haven't
built the mental um framework that you
need to want to be somebody badly enough
to push through that and all that I get
it man I have legitimate empathy for
people in that situation but at the same
time I'm like my hand i'm elbow deep in
the cookie jar in those moments going
you just can't keep up you just can't
keep up and when I'm the first in the
office and I'm the last to leave and I'm
up at 2 in the morning and I [ __ ] hit
the gym and you know people are texting
me like oh man I thought I was badass
getting up at 4: in the morning and
there you are up at 2:00 in the morning
it's I'm like yeah like don't bless you
don't try to keep up like you just you
don't have
the anger and Beauty in your mind the
way that I do you're not not going to be
able to push through and so in those it
really is this weird thing where I have
nothing but empathy for them in those
I'm not trying to eat their souls the
way the goggin is it's and I love that
and there I'm sure I will use that now
but I would Reserve that for people who
want bad things for me it just would
never trigger for me with people that I
care about MH or even people that I just
am neutral don't know whatever um that
my default response is always empathy in
those moments but if you want from my
eyes [ __ ] I'm coming for your
soul I like it all right uh a couple
shout outs from Facebook Leanne SME from
Cape Town what's up Leanne Cape Town our
boy Joe Cross from Miami this week all I
was going to say I don't think he's
normally is he normally I don't think so
where is Joe Cross I can't remember I
met him here so now he sort of ingrained
in my mind as a la boy but I don't think
that's true Wendy vianello from Venice
Italy wow all the way from Venice is the
most interesting City I've been in it's
amazing yeah I didn't make it out to you
didn't make it out but you'll go back
yeah I think I will Amazing Town uh we
have a question from Joe Cross as well
gogin says the key to changing your life
is to look internal for so many people
looking inside yourself doesn't do it
what do you think is NE necessary to
actually overcome inertia and maintain
momentum for deep
change uh I think that people that look
inwards and don't find what they need
are lying to themselves or I'll even
just assume they're completely fine and
content great like if you're fine and
content with where you are in life I
have nothing for you like I can only
hope to look like a mad man uh I'm the
guy you come to when you want dramatic
change like when you really want to do
something and that to me is looking
Inward and seeing all the things that
are deficient and creating a compelling
future for yourself and seeing amazing
things that you could bring to the world
and something beautiful that you could
build and that like a compelling future
like you need to be moving away from not
wanting to be a lesser version of
yourself holding yourself to an
incredibly high standard get around
better people they'll hold you to a
higher standard and then create a
compelling future for yourself something
that you really believe and that you're
really excited about that is so critical
like you can't just move away from
things and you can't just move towards
things but I think that 80% of your
energy should be about the beautiful
thing that you're trying to build so
Step One is looking inward 100% like
there is nothing else otherwise
somebody's handing you something and
saying go build this but if that's not
like in you that's not the thing you
want that's not the thing that's going
to get you excited that's going to from
a neurochemical standpoint put you in
the right frame of mind to push and go
and by the way like I don't pass moral
judgments on that I don't think that
most people should try to live the life
that I'm trying to live I think that
most people should everybody should look
Inward and see like what do I want like
a lot of people just want a life devoid
of stress and
my life is anything but devoid of stress
like I leverage stress to keep me going
to keep me moving to keep me hungry
looking over my shoulder making sure
that I'm paranoid and going as hard in
the forward direction as humanly
possible so if you want a Monkish life
if you want um just peace and
Tranquility that is a very doable life
but it is a very different type of
introspection so what what does someone
do cuz gogin says that you know you guys
are in lock step with this look look
inward find out and he really says find
out who you are at your core that's step
one um what do people do if they're
doing a lot of deep work self-reflection
and they still don't know who they
are I thought you were going to ask
something else I'm going to answer the
something else cuz it's easier okay uh
if you look inwards and don't like what
you see which is I think where most
people end
up is there even such a thing as not
knowing who you are I don't think there
is maybe in the sense of not knowing
what you want out of life uh that's very
different that's like how do you take an
interest and turn it into a passion
which we'll talk about but maybe not
during
Goin um so if you look Inward and you
don't like what you see then it's about
Massive Action it's about what do I need
to do to become that person like um
there is an answer and it's the thing
that you don't want to say it's the
thing that's at the edge of your
Consciousness that you trying not to
allow yourself to say and say that thing
and go do whatever you need to do to get
good at that thing like it and it is
like
interest everybody knows what they're
interested in but they've got some off
switch where they they've passed a
judgment on it where it's like well I
can't go do that right like I could
never make money doing that I can never
make a living doing that I can never
tell my parents I do that um and so they
they and it's not like they recognize oh
this is that thing Tom is talking about
it seems so patently obvious to them
that they could never do that that they
can never tell the world that they do
that that they just they brush it off
and it's like stumbling over gold so
they're there in their sort of mental
construct and the answer is ubiquitous
it's the thing that they love doing it's
the thing that makes them the most happy
and just a lot of times that thing on
its surface seems stupid and so they
don't push and
there in Li is the tragedy when people
think they're letting other people's
view of what they like and they're
interested in um stop them from pursuing
that thing now not everything turns into
a multi-million dollar business but it
doesn't necessarily need to like figure
out like if that makes you feel alive
like let's take quilting MH if quilting
makes you feel artistic and creative and
you love doing it and hours go by and
you don't even notice
like find a like even if it's making
$5,000 a year doing it move to a small
town where the cost of living is crazy
low and find a way to quilt in one of
the you know the tiny houses in an
inexpensive town and if that's the thing
that makes you come alive then there you
go by the way the like the day or the
day after oh I I don't think I sent it
to you which is really dumb um I had
mentioned those people that took their
kids out on a boat and for years do you
remember talking about that no was I
talking to talking maybe I was talking
to Dr finesse it was during uh live and
anyway um that day or the next day I
read a story on I think Reddit about a
kid who was like Hey I grew up on a boat
and I have know oh just the um I bring
that up because even the like craziest
stuff like that can be done with kids
and this kid was like I wouldn't trade
it for anything so like you can
construct your life in such a way where
you're able to bring your most
exhilarating life to the Forefront all
right love it here's a question from
YouTube from Fathead Fathead Fathead Tom
how do you climb out of the Trap of not
hold on what can we talk about fathead
for a second I don't know Fathead do you
know Fathead I don't know Fathead but we
are I'm guessing unless it's a reference
to something cool and Powerful that I
don't know about very subtly he's
injecting a negative into his Perpetual
world and that is [ __ ] dangerous so
and I would just say and if somehow
Fathead is empowering for him the rest
of the world goes Fathead like it's not
a positive so you got to be careful with
[ __ ] like that like this is how people
very subtly erode themselves you have to
be really really careful maybe powerhead
he can change his name to powerhead that
would be amazing so power next time we
see you in the comments powerhead that's
what we're looking for his question is
uh Tom his for her question uh Tom how
do you climb out of the Trap of not
feeling like you are worthy of massive
success I come from an upper middle
class family my parents make good money
and we never struggle to pay bills
however I want more I want to push for
bigger things to change the world but
feel like I don't deserve it wow uh well
here's the good news this is all belief
system so do and believe that which
moves you forward start with that okay
so make the demand of yourself that you
do and believe only that which moves you
towards your goals so believing that you
don't deserve it does not move you
towards your goals so now that you have
the belief that you only do and believe
that which moves you towards your goals
you can immediately get rid of that so
even though it feels more real than what
you're going to tell yourself which is
that you do deserve it I get it the
negative thing feels real the positive
thing does not feel real you still have
to jettison it anything that does not
move you towards your goal so your goal
is to do something better to become
something more you have to start with
that belief that will do a lot of things
and then man be protective of who you
are like allowing other people to call
you fathead calling yourself Fathead
danger danger danger Will Robinson and
now that I know that he or she does not
believe that they're worthy I promise
you fathead is a negative it's
derogatory um and they just subtly let
that into their lives you this is like
an awesome and thank you by the way cuz
I know there's a lot of vulnerability in
this but there's just blocking and
tackling of the belief system that you
have to do and that's why the 25 bullet
points start living them potential is
nearly Limitless only do and believe
that which moves you towards your goals
like there are
just basic infrastructure for your mind
that you have to put in place it's a
belief system that will allow you to
empower yourself to go out and acquire
skills at the end of the day that's what
the belief system is about to believe
that you can that you should that you're
worthy all of that and then to actually
know how to go out and do it how do you
remove negative selft talk from your
life you don't never try to remove the
negative selft talk negative selft talk
is incredibly powerful but pay attention
to the balance so negative selft talk
usually is pointing out something that's
real so help me understand the
difference then between calling yourself
Fathead and negative selft talk because
your balance is eternally [ __ ] if your
name is Fathead it's just ever presentes
so having negativity be ever present and
literally it's his name mhm can we say
that would be part of your identity so
part of his identity is or her is this
self-defeating I'm a Fathead I'm not
good enough I don't deserve it um so
your your balance is never going to be
8020 in that World um his name should be
like why do I wear Batman Iron Man like
all these this superhero stuff Star Wars
Jedi like because I want to be
surrounded by that I want Bruce Wayne
staring back at me when I look in the
mirror I want Yoda throwing quotes out
at me like all the time all the time all
the time so I'm constantly surrounding
myself with that stuff the positive
reminders so negative selft talk is
usually pointing out something that's
real hey you're lazy that's one that I
get a lot and I'm like yes I am lazy so
I need to have rules hey since I'm lazy
I should probably have a rule about how
rapidly I get out of bed okay so that's
where my 10-minute rule came from um I
know that I'm lazy and I I am very good
at coming up with excuses so I should
probably work out first thing in the
morning because I hate it so much um hey
I really am lazy so I should probably do
from my 8 to 10 uh um important things
time I should probably start with the
things that suck the most and have the
highest impact so I'm almost always
doing contracts at that time so those
are like protective mechanisms because I
allow I don't go no you're not lazy it's
all good like love yourself for who you
are I'm like no [ __ ] you really
are lazy and you really do need to
combat this and don't tolerate the
expression of your laziness so like
gogin said I really am a dumb
[ __ ] cool what do I need to do
to get educated right he didn't wallow
in that he didn't say oh I could never
become anything he just said acknowledge
the truth you are dumb and so what do
you have to do right now today to start
educating yourself that's where people
have wins because they're just not
afraid to be real so I don't think
people should get rid of the negative
voice I think the negative voice is
there to serve you but you have to
relegate it to 20% and when it crops up
at 21% you shut the [ __ ] door on it
simple ass and use it as a trigger to
action 100% Pary always always always
well said great all right uh here's a
question from Cameron
RN how often do you use the dark side
for motivation compared to letting go of
a dark past o wow we're dabbling with
with uh something very dramatic in there
so um a dark past almost always means
physical emotional or sexual abuse um
never be afraid to seek help um like if
you need to talk with somebody about
that like do that in a heartbeat never
be ashamed about that that is just super
super super important um and also like
God a dark past man whatever you need to
do to get over that to get past that is
just super super important you need to
start building an empowering mindset you
need to allow yourself to believe that
you're good enough um to get better
right so I'm Not Afraid even for
somebody with a dark past I'm not afraid
to say like you probably haven't
accomplished the level that you want or
should or should be holding yourself to
that standard but you have to believe
that you can get better and you have to
believe that you're worthy of getting
better
um you should have written goggin is in
the feed so our boy gogins is in the
feed amazing thank you for letting me
know uh man I really hope he's been here
the whole time but dude gogin you are
the man you've totally uh just blown me
away in ways that I've been explaining
for the last 40 minutes uh I won't say I
could never explain but uh so back to it
if you have a dark past um that is
something you need to address you need
to get past that especially if you plan
to have kids like you've just got to
find something you've got to find the
beauty inside of you check out the West
Chapman episode which that's somebody
that's really overcome a super dark past
and for him to be able to find beauty
again which I think it was my first
question to him is the thing I'm most
fascinated by with people that have had
a dark past is you've got to find beauty
again you've got to find a way to let
all of that neurochemistry of beauty and
wonderment and joy and all of that come
back in you're going to have to
aggressively do that because you're
going to have hardwired through that
experience or experience is you're going
to have hardwired a lot of just rapid
negativity and so the chances of you
spending way more than 20% of your time
there is is super dangerous so um that's
a dark past allowing the darkness to be
usable that's a whole another ball of
wax so um the easiest way for me to talk
about Darkness is when somebody wants
ill for you um and goggin gave an
awesome example of this when he was
talking about how he was there during
hell week during the whole training and
he knew that the instructors who were
trying to break him down and find the
flaws in his personality we going to go
home and be in a comfy bed and he said
he wanted them to see him suffer and be
so comfortable with being uncomfortable
and smiling the whole time that when
they were at home in their comfy bed
thinking about how hard they struggled
during their time and how badly they
wanted to quit that he's not thinking
like that that he's not going to ring
that Bell that he's way more comfortable
being uncomfortable than you ever were
and in that he said he takes people's
Souls that
is that's an amazing way to use the
darkness
definitely uh one of the one of uh
David's quotes from the episode which I
love is we're writing our book every day
of Our Lives but we don't read that book
and it's just so good I love the idea
that a it's about self-reflection so you
need to be recognizing what you're doing
and B it's about intentionality because
we do have control we do have choices
that we're making but a lot of times
it's just an autopilot and we're not
being aware we're not being intentional
about those decisions so read the book
that we're writing and then write it
with intentionality love that quote so
much love that and I have to say in the
episode I had this moment of like oh God
what's goin's gonna say and when he said
selft talk was a huge part of his
success I was like thank God because
I've met other Navy Seals and their
response is like you just do it like
there's no s they don't understand how
they got there and that's what makes
gogin so powerful is he's gone on the
journey he was not born tough he was
born weak he was uh physically and
mentally he went through everything to
try to break him down emotionally and he
didn't look at that and blame the rest
of the world he turned Inward and got a
hold of his self talk and really turned
it into something incredibly powerful
and that to me that is like the story
that needs to be told that's the journey
that people need to be on um it's just
super super critical yeah that's awesome
here's a question from Facebook live
shakar Dewan what's up shakar um Tom
what do you think of the idea that there
are limits to the amount of deep work or
deliberate practice in a day I know you
don't believe in that but while I have
examples of people who have achieved
amazing physical de Feats like goggin I
don't see many talking about mental
stuff what's your experience on this um
it's not that I don't believe it is
there a limit to the Deep work that you
can do probably but like anything it's
so much farther away than where people
actually stop that don't even worry
about that don't think like you'll
transition into something no matter what
like just do as much as you can possibly
bear first of all you'll see that it
goes farther every day and that you get
better at it and like anything even
discipline Focus like those things can
be improved over time um so if when you
start you can only do deep work for like
25 minutes great but the next day you
better demand of yourself to do 26 and
then 30 and then 40 like just keep
pushing it out pushing it out pushing it
out and it's like the four-minute mile
if you read an article and somebody says
oh the most deep work that you can do is
about an hour and a half like you that's
all the human mind is capable of like
then there's Roger Roger banister who
when told that the heart would explode
if you ran faster than a four minute
mile said get out of here like that's
ridiculous and just pictured 359 359 359
and then finally he broke it and then
once he broke it then something like 20
people break it in like the next year I
mean it's ridiculous so people just need
to see that it's possible so um is there
a limit probably is it way farther than
you think yes so yeah don't don't tap
out cuz other people wrote in an article
that that's the limit cool
um David says that being the best isn't
about being being number one it's about
asking yourself did I leave every did I
do everything I could um and give
everything I had what do you think about
that um yeah I mean that it's true but
don't you also want to be number one and
I think that stuff is so transient like
you might be one minute and then you
won't be the next but to if you can do
it playfully like to really go after it
like for in I really really like Gary
vaynerchuck as a human being I think his
content is [ __ ] amazing but I'm
gunning for him like make no mistake
like I want to be number one I think
right now he's number one I think he's
amazing and but I'm coming for him but
like in a way where when I see him it's
warm and braces it's you know he's a
great guy and he'll be the first to say
the same like he wants to hold the
number one position like there's no way
that he wants somebody to take a spot
but if that's like this place of
ugliness and bitterness like uh that's
not sustainable but if you can have fun
with it and be playful and really
actually try to be number one and then
when you're not number one it's like
yeah like if if you left it all on the
table and you're not number one so be it
like no big deal but um if I were a
professional athlete I would want to be
the best in the world like period so I
don't see anything wrong with actually
literally wanting to be the best um but
at the same time that spot can only be
held by one person at a time so if
that's destructive and corrosive to not
be that then you've got a problem
because statistically speaking you've
got like what a one and a seven billion
chance right so you better be real
comfortable being in other positions and
leaving it all on the table all right
there we go uh just a reminder we're on
Facebook live we're wrapping up in a few
minutes so get your questions in now
about the David gogin episode if you
haven't watch watched or listened to it
this is one you you need to you need to
see I'm just we're just going to make it
mandatory yes like if you're an impac
toist this needs to be and by the way
you should be following goggin socially
so in fact we should probably be
pressuring goggin to be way more
socially active uh just CU I think this
message is so transformative for people
and people really really really need to
hear it so agreed uh here's a question
from Sarah abrasi she says uh Tom what's
what's an important Truth uh or what
important truths do very few people
agree with you
on um I think uh that people don't agree
I surround myself with people that think
in a very positive and empowering way so
most of the people around me agree um
but I would say that a lot of the world
totally disagrees with human potential
is nearly Limitless
um what's one that's really
controversial
um the the whole self-hatred thing
that's the most controversial belief
that I have that that is powerful and
can be leveraged um I think most people
think that it's just dangerous um and
that's why with great empath empathy I
realize I will forever eat their lunch
because I'm willing to be real with
myself yeah I think another one too uh
which you got into a little bit of a
debate over yesterday with uh one Mel
Robbins yeah was about whether or not
you as an individual are special and
unique yeah and your answer was not at
all like statistically speaking you're
all average and life is
about p p in past that life is about
like that drives me when somebody is
saying like I'm special I'm unique it's
because you're afraid to right now today
not be special and once you're afraid to
not right now today be special then
you're not honestly assessing where you
really are so that you can actually
become special that you can get good but
for me it's like the the version of
myself that's special and amazing and
all is always in the distance and I'm
always chasing that and I'm always going
after it's a bit paradoxical did my dog
jailbreak and if so how cuz it requires
opening
doors my dogs can now open doors that's
very impressive dogs are are running
loose they were inspired by goggin it's
like they can't be held back now um so
yeah I don't think people should worry
about being special I think people
should worry about becoming special like
they should be putting in the work to
really get that ke word becoming yeah
it's a process that never ends for sure
no question it's very paradoxical so I
feel like we might have to Circle back
to this or have you write an article
about oh God I'm not writing an article
can we talk about I don't write articles
anymore like that is the world's longest
process we all already everyone here is
very comfortable with the fact that I am
using a ghost writer now to write the
book yes um because I can speak all this
stuff very rapidly the moment you need
it to be written down it is such a slow
process I just I can't just justify it
for the business okay so well but we do
we have that guy that wrote if he can
write emails like this guy writes in the
impact Theory universe so well indeed
can we give him a shout out what's his
name do you
remember Gerald I think it is Gerald I
don't know his last name though okay but
that's good well remembered so Gerald to
get connected uh we tweeted back at you
that was amazing um by the way this guy
just to get an internship wrote five
emails that he thinks we should be
sending just like that was he had never
had contact with us before really
incredible very impressive it was a good
angle for sure very good angle
especially because Jared is ultimately
the one you have to impress and so
emails was like the perfect way to do it
yeah emails very smart uh here's a
question from William Mendoza Tom what
is one weakness that has turned out to
be a strength for
you man I could give you some BS none
zero all of my weaknesses are weaknesses
for a reason and they don't serve me and
systematically I'm trying to get rid of
them all there we go there it is love it
no
weaknesses uh those are all the
questions we have and that I have
anything else you want to talk about D
goggin I just think people need to dive
into his world I think they will benefit
tremendously from doing the hard inner
reflection looking at where you are
honestly and then forcing yourself to
suffer understanding that in the
suffering you will meet yourself in the
suffering you will be able to empower
yourself begin to get better but if you
avoid suffering like the plague you're
never going to progress and it it is
literally about creating suffering in
your life and if you don't have
something already might I suggest the
gym so the gym has longevity um angle it
has looking better feeling better
getting stronger being more powerful and
every day it's going to be something
that is woefully uncomfortable and so in
doing that you're going to be able to
sharpen your mind and your body it is
just an awesome awesome um utility
player in the game of suffering
so get to it nobody has an excuse even
if literally you can't afford a gym
membership um do sit-ups do push-ups uh
run in place go run outside like there
are a thousand ways to get in shape um
without having to go to a gym and then
also if you really want to suffer start
messing with your food that's where most
people just can't do it they can't fast
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episode and David goggin to you my
friend I tip my hat you are officially
my favorite episode this was amazing I'm
very glad that I got a chance to meet
you um and I have not forgotten about
what we talked about downstairs we will
be making that a reality in the very
near future my friend um it is an
obsession of mine so we will get it done
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