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yes I do believe women are delusional
with what they want women have been
hijacked with liberal values even women
are now using women as sexual objects
you defin hypergamy by can I manipulate
you yes or no yes of course I would love
it if you can just get as fat as you
want and not make an effort ever again
and no worries he'll still be loyal but
it's just not realistic I always say men
get cheated on so much more than women
do I want to talk about cheating yeah so
how do men put themselves in a situation
where they can avoid the kind of woman
that's going to cheat on them here's the
thing with men they this is a really key
difference why I always say men get
cheated on so much more than women do
they with women we enter relationships
with the Assumption the man is going to
cheat at some stage and then we're
looking for evidence that he's not going
to do it so we go in with our you know
with our like alertness on most women
and I I think there's an evolutionary
reason for that because obviously we
don't want to be left pregnant and all
these things so most women when they
meet a man they'll start to check his
online when he's online who he's
following and this and then over time
they earn the trust and like okay I can
relax he's actually quite good like I
haven't seen any problems perfect with
men they go into relationships with the
Assumption she would never they go in
with this naivity when they're dating
that why no no go would and the other
thing men do is because they've selected
a Woman They want to justify their
selection so they assume she's a great
girl they assume she's a good girl
simply because they've selected her not
because she's earned any of those values
so what happens is they ignore a lot of
the behaviors that predict cheating and
the behaviors that predict cheating are
so easy to see but they avoid those and
they just focus on what they like
because particularly if they're sexually
satisfied they will literally avoid all
the evidence so how are they get cheated
on is they go into it with a naivity now
men who have been with lots of women
will tell you that women are no more
innocent than men are they've been on
the receiving end when they've been in
bed with a girl and she's called her
boyfriend and said oh I'm just going to
be home
they've seen that side of women some men
have never seen that side of women so
they just think that doesn't exist so
what happens is they go in with a little
bit of naivity and they literally take
words over behaviors as soon as a woman
says oh no I don't do this I'm a I'm a
traditional woman they won't look at an
well say well she's a traditional woman
but she's been on a private jet recently
or she's gone on holiday with and she
didn't tell me who she was going with or
you know she's always in the club and
she doesn't tag me or any they don't
connect the dots they simply go by what
she says rather than what she does
and I noticed this particularly with men
who have terrible relationships with
their fathers and just grow up in a
single parent home I always say men who
grow up in a single parent home are far
more likely to be cheated on and the
reason I believe that is when you grow
up with just one parent you have only
one version of event you only have a
female perspective of the world you kind
of just think okay what mom says is
almost true because you don't have a way
of factchecking it when you grow up with
your mom and dad you see that mom also
you know she can be a bit annoying dad
is difficult sometimes you see the
dynamic and you can fact check the truth
and you validate what there being said
when men grow up with just a female
perspective they start to go into the
real world believing everything a woman
says and not double-checking it so when
she when she says oh my ex is so
controlling he used to always think I
was cheating on him he won't say why did
he think you were cheating did you do
anything they'll just think oh my God
what what how he's so toxic I'm going to
prove I'm so much better than him and
I'm not going to say anything I'm going
to let you do whatever you want they
just adapt to her perspective so that's
the first thing and the second thing is
because they grew up not seeing what a
wife looks like not seeing that women
you know they tend to come home when
they're happy they don't always go on
holidays with their friends they don't
come home super late they don't stay
over really like you know when they're
married they kind of stay home with
their they want to come home to their
husband they didn't get to see that
Growing Up So when their woman is hyper
independent they don't see it as a
signal that she's not attached they just
see it as this is how women come and
therefore they select women who are
usually more likely to cheat on them
because she has those traits of a single
woman that they don't not it they don't
notice does that make any sense or is
that it does uh I assume the things that
you went through are the behaviors that
predict so they're going out clubbing
they're not taking you
um what
are what are the things that if
somebody's being naive that they're
being naive about so certainly that
women are capable of it but um oh God I
hate to even say this but like what are
the red flags what do people well hasn't
made naive thing they simply think that
if they treat her better than what she
normally goes for they've got no
competition so what I mean by that is
they walk into a room and they be like
I'm the richest guy here I've got no
competition or I'm the tallest guy she's
been with I've got no competition your
competition is not defined by other men
your competition is by how loose her
boundaries are and her values you could
be the best looking man she knows you
could be the richest man she knows but
if she is somebody who really values
Independence and really really values
her own kind of Liber Liberation she
will not care if you're she's cheating
with someone less than you more than you
whatever it is it's her open her desire
to be independent and not be caged now
what they all do is they have this false
sense of security that they've created
for themselves rather than based on her
behavior your sense of security should
come from her level of dedication how do
you monitor her dedication she naturally
respects the relationship more than her
independence so what I mean by that is
yes she might want to go to MOS you
every summer and she might want to go
Monica but she understands that you know
when you're in a relationship in those
environments it can get a little bit
tricky so I'll go but I'll probably want
my husband there or I probably want you
what what they think is my woman would
never they don't think that my my actual
loyal women would rather not put
themselves in those environments they
have this mentality that she wouldn't
because I'm the best she has but if she
if you were truly the best she has she
wouldn't put herself in those
environments so look at her choices look
at what she chooses to do and if she
places herself in environments where
alternatives are presented regularly she
does that then she's probably not
satisfied and the other thing that they
forget is some men particularly young
men and in this generation they are they
you know if she's bisexual if she brings
other women in and this that the other
they're actually very happy about that
yeah yeah they they really love that
they're like oh my God she's so cool she
got other women involved the biggest
choke called you can have on a woman is
when you're the only person that is able
to sexually satisfy her when you invite
other people in and well man woman
whatever it is you're don't you're
you're opening the door for her
climaxing because of somebody else
outside of you you lose your choke hold
in that moment I see some of these
really like red pill kind of guys who be
like oh my woman she lets me get with
other girls and she even join seeing the
moment she can climax because of
somebody other than you you lose your
choke hold over her there is there is
women out there that I know that are
beautiful got many options but because
they haven't been with many men and
they're a bit like scared of their
they'll stay L to him even if he's in
jail they won't go anywhere because they
haven't tried other men but other women
that because the man has opened that
door for her and invited other
stimulants into the relationship
they you have you lose your ability to
get complete and utter sexual submission
from her when you invite too many
alternatives for
her okay all right this is very
interesting all right so the first uh
thing you said that really sparked me is
this IDE idea that uh too much
Independence is a problem so remember
men and women by the way I just want to
make that clear is for men and women I
would say that this started with what
should guys avoid if they want to avoid
being cheated on and the answer is
somebody who's too independent yeah uh
it's very interesting okay
so you're looking out for somebody that
you want somebody that puts the
relationship ahead of the independence
they're willing to give something up to
get that how do you begin to draw
boundaries around that like what is the
right amount of um submission to the
relationship and at what point does it
become controlling and stifling um
reasonable requests are not controlling
and what I mean by reasonable requests
is objectively we can agree it's not
about me it's not about you we can agree
that this isn't good for the
relationship so objectively it might be
the case that let's say you're going to
live abroad for a couple of years or a
couple of months or whatever it's
probably not good for the relationship
we can objectively agree on that and
even if it was the other way around we
were both agree or objectively we would
agree that going out a lot on weekends
drinking alcohol is not good for the
relationship so it's when we can both
agree that it's not unreasonable the way
to handle boundaries as a man is you
don't sit there and beg her to listen to
you and you don't sit there and be if
you can't do this you se you see her own
choices and you decide if it is an
appropriate selection for you to be with
this woman you don't force her to change
you allow her to live how she wants to
live and then you let her know what what
you prefer and give her time but if she
if she decides this is not how she wants
to live instead of being like well we
got to do this you got to listen to me
I'm the man I'm this you just say okay
fair enough I totally want you to live
the life you want but it's not
compatible with the values and
boundaries I have instead what they do
is they stay there get really
controlling really aggressive and be
like you need to listen to me you need
to but in that moment she learns you
don't have a willingness to walk away
she learns and that is something you
never want to teach man or woman you
don't want to teach anybody that you
have no willingness to walk away in
instead what you want to teach them is
the relationship means something to you
you want to protect this relationship
through boundaries and you want them to
meet you in the Middle with that if they
do that fantastic if they choose not to
the goal is not to be with you the goal
is to have a good relationship if you
don't want this we wouldn't have a we're
not going to have a good relationship so
no worries I wish you the best the
toxicity comes from the inability to
walk away that's one of those that it's
so simple but it really is true as you
were talking I was like is there really
anything other than leaning away from
somebody when they do a behavior that
you don't like
when they aavi and a to away that's
theame the only and it works men and
women it works for men and women like
you can sit there and beg your husband
to come home on time you can do all of
these things but the only thing that
works it works is your willingness to
work away now you might say now I walked
away and they still didn't change then
that person doesn't want you enough
that's a signal instead of begging that
person to want you accept their choices
if they don't want you enough and you
still want to be with them then let them
live the life they want but if that you
walked away and they didn't change they
don't want the relationship enough yeah
so don't keep using that trick learn
from that trick that it's not working so
therefore this person doesn't want it
enough whereas if you pull away and they
actually love and appreciate you more
they obviously want this relationship
they want it to work man uh this is
where self-esteem really becomes an
important part of this equation it's the
number one thing I honestly you can have
every ingredient but without self-esteem
man or woman no relationship can it
can't flourish sadly is is such an
important ingredient towards the any
relationship because without self-esteem
there's no self-respect and without self
resect there's no mutual respect so it's
a really difficult one so if you if
you're struggling in relationships
you're not actually struggling
relationships you're struggling in
self-esteem you don't know how to love
or be loved correctly and as a result
your relationships are distructive what
do you think has changed that makes it
hard for women today to respect and fall
for the average man uh men have
worshiped sex in a way that they've
never done before and as a result what
before would make a man want to marry
you would involve a woman having a lots
of good qualities before a woman would
think okay I have to come from a good
family or maybe should go to school I
should maybe educate I should you know
really learn how to cook I should do
something with my life I should sew I
should do something this is our
grandma's generation they knew that the
you know you make too many mistakes
you're going to be left on the Shelf in
this day and day and age the women that
are actually the least promiscuous and
most traditional or don't have sexual
experience struggle to find a man
whereas a woman with every surgery with
every tattoo with all of her body out
everywhere she has endless cue of men
now they're going to argue no no no but
we don't you know we don't want to marry
those girls they're they're actually
lying men are very happy to marry the
woman that gives them the most sexual
pleasure they think that's not true but
you ask them which of your exes or which
woman had the biggest choke hold over
you and it will be usually the woman
that they enjoyed the sex with the most
and when a woman learns that she can get
away with murder simply because you're
hyper attracted to her it makes it
impossible for her to respect and want
to be with you impossible because it's
like how did I get here so easily you
must not be valuable whereas when we
know that certain behaviors will make us
insufferable to you because you don't
give us a free pass because of our
appearance or our sexual performance we
can finally respect you so because of
the culture we've got today and because
how men have worshiped sex in a way that
they've never really did before um I'm
I'm not blaming them I'm blaming
societal changes it's made it very
difficult for us to respect the man that
we know you know if we just simply know
exactly how he likes it he'll forgive us
in five minutes or if we know when we
turn our back he'll be on downloading an
only fan subscription it's hard for us
to respect that man okay you're touching
on something really big here that
there's a what I'll call a derangement
in
culture uh so you hinted at this idea
that in the past we had a very different
culture what men wanted um incentivize
women to invest in a set of skills their
obsession with sex was being tampered by
something yeah I want to know what what
has changed in culture specifically what
did it used to be and what is it now um
we had realistic expectations of our
sexual climaxing and what our what we
deserve sexually so what I mean by that
is when a person looked you know wasn't
so appealing he would accept that he's
going to be with a woman that doesn't
isn't the most appealing and they would
have a relative be mundane sexual
performance and that would be their life
and the man that might be you know the
jock in school he might get with a
cheerleader and they'd have realistic
expectations of what to expect from the
opposite gender the Advent of social
media and pornography has allowed the
person with the least amount to offer a
woman to still believe he deserves and
still want to desire the topof the range
woman who is the most sexually
promiscuous who was most sexually over
he still believes there's an element of
him who thinks he deserves that now and
because they've got such inflated
expectations of what they want and
deserve sexually they can't match with
people who are on the same level as them
and it's leaving Le leading them to a
lifetime of loneliness because they'd
rather be alone than be with a woman on
their same level whereas before they
would just be like okay I'm a bit you
know maybe I'm not so successful maybe
I'm a bit overweight my wife's a bit
chubby I can understand it I'll meet men
who are now in their 50s and saying oh
she's she's let herself go a little bit
she's got a few stretch marks and it's
like but tell me about your body well
you I need to work out but she and it's
that complete hypocrisy that they've
developed through constantly watching
beautiful women online all right is that
the core cultural wound that we no
longer are being realistic about our own
sexual market value yeah I believe so I
think the inflated expectations from
what we're watching um and not being
aware of what we bring to the table is
one of the core issues but also the
liberation of sex of how like it's got
no cap on it anymore so just a normal
you know we would kind of just probably
expected by the time our parents got
into our 50s or 60s and stuff they would
have just a normal kind of sex life in
in this day and age there's still the
the endless desires and insatiable cup
when it comes to your sexual desires and
and because they're constantly bombarded
with different ideas it feels like there
is an endless hle and there's only so
many women that can keep up with that so
they keep replacing the women rather
than replacing this
desire okay so if we were going to
assign percentage blame to men and women
um and I I definitely want to dive into
the idea of deserve more but if we're
going to assign blame to men and women
is are men deranging it more or women
deranging things more men entirely men
entirely and they'll hate that they'll
be like no women have lost their this
women have I'll tell you why I say that
I happen to be a woman in a very unique
position where I have a kind of presence
on social media where I do help men like
you we we help men on a regular basis
and on a daily basis a short we'll get
millions of views and I'll have men
message me saying you saved me from
suicide you saved my relationship you've
helped me so much and then I will look
and I'll think I remember I was going on
my patreon I have a patreon where you
can sign up and you can ask me questions
and I'm doing fine on my patreon but I
looked at other content creators who
I've never seen before like women that
I've like oh I don't know what she's
donees I've never SE she's got nowhere
near the reach I have and this is not in
a competitive way I was just curious and
she would have hundreds of thousands of
subscribers and I was like oh I wonder
what she's doing it would all be
pornography related so I just thought to
myself I'm in a position I'm not saying
this in a jealous way because I know
that's how they're going to take it I
happen to help men on a daily basis but
because I don't lead with sex I will
never get the reaction or the following
whereas if I just started posting
pictures of feet toes this that and the
other I would be inundated with
subscribers so they reward the most um
toxic behavior in society and then
complain that women are no longer
traditional there's only let's say I
don't know the statistics but let's say
for example there's only like 500,000
only fans creators or porn creators but
there's billions of people watching it
so the main problem has to be the men
there's only a tiny percentage of women
that actually sell sex but there's not a
tiny percentage of men that watch it so
we have to think who is actually
contributing to the problem more okay do
you blame men in general for patronizing
it or is there something else that sits
on top of that like uh the capitalistic
impulse to give people whatever they
want so if they want uh a dating app
where they can find quick hookups we're
going to give it to them if they want an
AI girlfriend we're going to give it to
them um so where do we start getting
into the Nuance because what I'm trying
to really tease out here is I I think
you're right in that
ultimately every individual man is able
to start making better choices and get a
better outcome but at the same time
culture has energy and when cultural
Energy starts moving in a direction um
to look at an individual man who's now
bearing the brunt of of not being able
to attract a woman yeah um having to
work I forget what the status that
people throw out having to work five
times harder to get a girl that's half
as good you know what I mean like that
whole idea I think there really is
something to that and so I'll look at
guys and I will be deeply empathetic and
uh something that I talk to my wife a
lot about is you you really have to
immerse yourself in the culture to see
something is broken yeah and so do you
see that that overlayer that's
generating some of these problems or
really is NOP just individual guys
making mistakes do you know what I
started with a really different kind of
message I was very much like you know on
proen and really like trying to
understand the core problem and the
number one thing I've learned in my
experience is for them every problem is
alleviated through sex they alleviate a
lot of problems through sex if they all
have a marriage and instead of like you
know the wonderful like techniques that
the Gman Institute might say like where
you know you say nice things to each
other you can say the nicest things to a
man you can cook for him you can look
after him but if you are not satisfying
him sexually he'll risk it all to be
with somebody who does it's like you
have to go through that Gateway in order
to access the best parts of them in
order to get that attachment to get that
appreciation to get that love out of
them it's like you have to go in that
Direction first and then they can reward
you so it's almost like that's the
Avenue now to get love out of them so
it's very difficult I'm not saying women
are any better um but it seems like I I
and I did this because I've been working
with couples for so long and we'd be
trying this that and the other and then
now I just come in when couples come to
me the first thing I ask is like are you
sleeping together and she's like oh no
we are not and I'm like than everything
you've done like arranging birthdays for
his mom cooking for him ironing his
clothes it doesn't mean anything
sexually satisfied so start with that
I'm not saying actually that's a bad
thing I'm thinking if you know that it's
actually a bit easier but I don't know
if that's just my experience because I
get the skewed end of it but would you
say that men can only really appreciate
the other aspects of a relationship once
they're sex sexually satisfied women
need to feel loved to have sex men need
to have sex to feel loved the US
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negative because I sound so different to
how I came last year only because as my
prices increased I saw more successful
men and then the behavior of more
successful men is so different to the
behavior of less successful men which
made me believe that the only reason men
are being good is because they don't
have the options and the ability to do
what successful men do so it made me
then even get into that is this why you
know you hear about royal families and
they can become pedophiles or is this
why you hear this so it makes me think
that as men have more Financial Freedom
their selection gets worse and worse
which means that their true desires
might be worse and worse but we they
just can't access it when they're on the
lower end of the financial status there
is something very true about that and
this brings us to um what has changed
that's made women have a hard time
falling for average men now yeah um I
would say materialism to that as well
yeah I I like just like how men are a
bit delusional about you know you'll get
men in their 50s and still think that
they can get a 25y old women are also
very delusional about the wealth that
they can access um they spend endless
hours looking consuming content online
which is just glorifying wealth and then
assuming that they deserve that
lifestyle and assuming it you know
almost making fun of men that aren't
quite on that same level and you know
what beautiful girls will do is use the
use sex to access it but less beautiful
women will just stay single they'll just
say well I'm a CEO or I'm I'm you know
working hedge funds so I'm not going to
be settle for a guy that's on an average
earning even if she's but they don't
realize for men appearance means more
than what you're earning so to get that
top level guy he doesn't care that
you're so smart and intelligent and
you're a successful lawyer he wants to
know if you have a 21y old sister yeah
that's what he's going to ask for so I
think there's a delusion on both ends
yeah I think that's really important to
dive into and and I will uh ultimately
answer the question of whether I think
men can or should have multiple wives
That's pretty interesting but um I do
want to um tie some of these things up
from the very beginning yeah uh where
we're talking about what what what's
changed what's broken um this idea of
deserve I think is a really important
idea um what do you think is driving
this sense of um entitlement they think
if they see it they should have it as
simple as that social media Mak that's
the criteria now I've seen it so I want
it there is no I've earned it there's no
that I also provide this quality so
therefore I could potentially ask for it
back but it's just I've seen it
therefore I want it and whenever you
have a quality and you just you're
Baseline for why you want it is because
you've seen it that's not a valid reason
for wanting something but if it's
something that you also provide and in
your past experiences you've also
received because that's what happens
then chances are that's a realistic
expectations but if it's something
you've never accessed and you don't
actually be you can't provide it
yourself then it's an unrealistic
expectation so what I mean by this is if
you're a very beautiful girl you can
expect a beautiful man yes or if you're
a beautiful girl and men have spoiled
you in the past and they've given you a
lot of you know money or whatever is you
can expect that if you've never
experienced men spoiling you you've
always had men that are you know more on
the lower end kind of dedicated to you
and yet you want a really wealthy man to
propose to you where is this expectation
coming from because it's not from your
lived experience expectations should
come from our lived experiences if
they're coming from vicarious
experiences that you've seen online they
are not realistic just take them out of
your mind because they will keep you
single and I I always say there's only
two reasons why people are single one
reason is is where they don't they have
excessive self-hate where they don't
really love themselves enough and they
have really low self-esteem so they
avoid people or they only go for people
who don't love them enough and as a
result they find themselves in a
Perpetual cycle of an unhealthy
relationship until it ends or people who
have which now more people are falling
into where people have excessive
self-love where they believe they
deserve certain traits and refuse to
settle until they access those traits
and as a result they're perpetually
single so I'll me men sometimes they'll
get to 47 48 years old and say um I want
to have kids so therefore I'll only go
for a 25 26 year old I want a woman in
my in her 20s because you know I want to
have kids which sounds valid on paper
and I like okay but she's going to want
financial compensation for the 20e age
difference they no no I want it to be a
a really genuine connection I but it's
the price you pay when you get to a
certain age you can't expect a genuine
connection from a young girl when you're
in your 40s and 50s you have to
sacrifice the the intimacy so they they
think that they still deserve that
connection but sometimes we pass that
same thing I say the same thing with
women I like if you get to a certain age
and stage and you haven't had your kids
you have and then they'll say no no I
don't want to be a stepmom so you can't
have any children but I want to have
kids but if you're in your late 30s
early 40s you have to adapt your
expectations it's the refusal to adapt
expectations and I'm stuck in almost a
childlike state of I want my dummy now
that keeps people single should people
settle well I think they should redefine
what settling means is it is it settling
in your case or is it just going for the
people that love you here's what people
think settling is just being with the
person that likes you but that is the
look your criteria should be what your
type should be in people should be how
somebody treats you that's it how they
look what their size they are what they
bring all of that stuff should be
secondary your type should be a
treatment not a person so my type should
be somebody who's kind who's loving
who's loyal yes attraction is definitely
important I'm not saying it's not
important but the treatment is more my
type where people get a bit wrong is
that their type has become she has to be
blonde she has to beue eyes and they
forget completely treatment is not
mentioned they don't even mention the
type has to be how much he likes you
back as well and how much she's
attracted to you back they don't look at
that they just look at in from a
unilateral perspective and therefore
they end up either single or being used
and abused in relationships yeah yeah uh
sexual market value I think is important
and I think people's delusions around
that create a lot of trouble and
figuring out what are the things that
are most important to you I think is
really it's really
moreal who do you think is more men or
women uh right now probably women
because the way that social media works
it really rewards women in a way that
wildly disadvantages men so some of the
things that we haven't gotten into in
terms of how we're in the system that
we're in so you've said previously that
back in the day you didn't have to be um
you couldn't be beautiful for anybody
more than the town that you're in and
now you're beautiful for the whole world
there's
eques say yours for kind of a throw
you're building the you're a bit of a
[ __ ] you're you're not confident enough
you don't know what you're doing I mean
a select few but for the most part no
it's just a dark time uh building blocks
building blocks exactly and so somewhere
in your early to mid-30s you start to
break out now somebody in their early to
mid-30s can very much still connect with
somebody in their early to mid 20s I
don't think that's a big jump so and
also the generation is in line with each
other right exactly so now you've got
somebody that's in their early 20s as a
woman that can see a guy that's in their
early 30s that's really starting to pop
off and so now that 20-some guy that
would naturally be going for the woman
that's only a couple years different
than him is competing with somebody
that's in their 30s and so now he's got
all these years to really just get
rejected over and over and over by women
that have a growing sense of delusion we
were just talking prepping for this
episode was beyond fun we
me and the producer Drew just started
talking about it and slowly there was
another person and then another person
and then another person until there was
like eight or nine of us like talking
about relationships and everything and
like where this is all going and they're
they're younger right they're in some of
them yeah so we but we have people that
are you know late 30 okay so everybody's
perspective was accounted for exactly
well and then I'm the old guy so that
was also accounted for but the
fascinating thing was the one universal
comment was oh it's actually easier to
get laid now it's just harder to get
someone to commit both the guys and the
girls felt like that was the case and so
that's like sort of derangement Point
number one is if what everybody's
actually looking for is a long-term
committed relationship but there's this
sort of invisible change in the sexual
mores where people just feel like well
I'm I'm just going to try the
merchandise before I buy and so it's
like you end up in yeah I'll have sex
with you to see like is there anything
here but and then point number two of
just complete total derangement is you
can be on the apps all the time endless
Choice constantly being like well I had
fun with them but was it the ultimate
fun could I have more fun and so now in
a world where women are hypergamous
they're dating over and up and they can
see the level of success via Instagram
whatever across a wide SWAT of humanity
have you heard what I talk about when I
say what hypergamy actually means for
women tell me I I would I know that the
traditional sense hypergamy is just you
know women want someone older richer all
these things I say actually none of that
matters women actually their definition
of hypergamy is the man that is she
can't manipulate that's the only man
you'll find high pergamus a 19-year-old
who's dating a CEO who's 40 years old
far more successful than her taller than
her uh more in more grades more
qualifications everything is above her
you would say that she's hypergamous I
can guarantee you if she can manipulate
every money every piece and get rent
from him get a car she will still throw
him in the dust and find somebody that
she actually respects that's not
hypergamy in a woman's eyes hypergamy in
a woman's eyes is we can't fool you
simple she would rather be with a man
that is less successful less intell she
not that she'd rather be but she'd be
more submissive to a man who's less
successful less intelligent might even
be a bit shorter but he doesn't fall for
nonsense he knows when she he's she's
trying to manipulate him she can't trick
him she can't manipulate him so I
believe hypergamy is finded purely by
the art of manipulation not actually by
the arbitrary things of course we want
someone richer and taller but the uh
Baseline of that only matters if you're
more intelligent than us and we don't
Define intelligence by financial success
we Define intelligence by can I
manipulate you yes or no if the answer
is no you are not an idiot you are not
going to pay my rent while your own
daughter's rent you don't even consider
or you are not going to buy me a car
because I slept with you a couple of
times you're not stupid but if we find
that oh my God I can tell him that need
his card and he gives it to me straight
away or I can tell him that you know I
lost my job so I need rent he gives it
to me straight away without me even
knowing him that well just because
immediately she loses respect and
therefore the hypergamy disappears so I
think you're on to a really important
addition to hypergamy but I can hear the
men in the comments screaming right now
like I can't be manipulated so yeah but
I still can't get a date yeah uh I think
the key to add to that is that uh it has
to be someone that the woman would want
to manipulate and so if she's not drawn
to you attracted to you finds nothing
interesting about you it doesn't matter
that if she tried to manipulate you tell
her to [ __ ] off you're not interested
whatever um there there is a dynamic
there so first there has to be mutual
desire and then there has to be a very
mature uh thing in it it's funny so I
don't think men look for Mutual desire
anymore I think men with high
self-esteem do I think men with super
high self-esteem I think the Baseline is
men with super high self-esteem
reciprocity is more important than
Beauty as long as she she wants him as
much as he wants her and this is like
she they men with high self-esteem only
know what women look like who like them
so they know women to want to take their
clothes off they want they know women
that are calling their phone 24/7 they
know women who are initiating sex that's
with men with high self-esteem that's
the type of women they're around men
with low self-esteem which is getting
more and more don't care if she wants
him just as long as he gets to touch her
so that's where you'll find these men
that go to escorts you'll find these men
that go to webcams these men that go you
know travel you know um passport boys
they don't care if she wants him or not
just does she let me have sex with her
they're not looking for Mutual desire as
much particularly as they get older you
think they're not looking for Mutual
desire or they have given up on finding
I don't think they know what it even
looks like because they're so replaced
Mutual Desire with attraction from their
perspective I had had a a video that was
got a lot of hate where I said that um
the use of prostitutes is um legal rape
and I believe that men who look for
Mutual desire they realize that consent
is not simply somebody saying yes it's
somebody who wants you as much as you
want them that's what true consent looks
like in their eyes whereas men who use
prostitutes consent simply means yes
regardless of whether that's manipulated
consent or whether that's you know
groomed or whatever it is as long as she
said yes so even if you had to get that
yes an envelope on the table they'll
take that yes they just want permission
but men with high self-esteem they don't
want permission they want desire desire
is their true form of consent when a
woman desires them so I think yes I do
believe women are delusional with what
they want but there's nothing more
delusional than that man that as he gets
older and older and older still wants
that 19 20y old but wants her to
actually want him she doesn't she's not
going to want you is Trump raping
Melania uh consensual rap
and there is a thing it's where the
consent is bought on and as a result it
becomes consensual rapes so you don't
think it's possible yeah that she thinks
oo like he's so powerful and so good at
what he does powerful and Status all of
these things only matter when the
underlying attraction is there let's say
yeah that my wife is in a car accident
and she gets
burned is she raping me if I sleep with
her uh no because the underlying
attraction is there even though
physically that's going to be tough
phally now it's going to be tough but
your premise for being together was is
not destroyed because it wasn't that
wasn't the premise of you guys being
together that wasn't the contract but if
the premise of Melania and Trump is that
this guy's smart he's uh an amazing
politician businessman whatever do you
think she would be with him if he was
broke tomorrow like lost everything of
course not right so then the premise is
the the contract says you have to
maintain the conditions of which when we
first met yeah whereas when it's love
and connection and commitment we
understand the conditions can change but
we're committed to you for them they're
committed to what their side of the deal
was let me um change my answer slightly
that would she stay with him if he lost
everything and was trying to rebuild um
I don't know I I literally when I'm
surprised I remember her name so that is
like how
am but remember Lisa being very
impressed when was asked
question you know why are you with Trump
he's just with you for your beauty and
you're just with him for his money or
just somebody said you're just with him
for his money and she's like hold on but
he's just with me for my beauty like why
is there such a double standard yeah now
my thing is I really do think that
there's probably more credit to give to
cuz what I always tell people is don't
worry about getting the money become the
kind of person that can earn that money
so it's like most NBA players will never
earn a championship ring but they should
still be just beyond proud of themselves
for being so good at something that they
were able to make into the NBA so
they're still the 1% athlete lse exactly
become capable of a championship
performance even if you never win a
championship so it is possible that
somebody is just so good at a thing that
somebody finds intoxicating that they're
able to get past that so I agree with my
wife there are things that I'm into with
her where the looks can and will fade
and I'm still going to be way into her
but I think that there are far more
Dimensions upon which people can be
connected where I wouldn't call it
consensual rap not that I'm ruling out
the con I the only reason I would say
that is you have to think that is if the
condition in which you chose to marry
this person if that was to change would
you still be connected to the person or
you connected to the condition I think
it's all all conditions all the way down
yeah so if I stopped um if I stopped
having a growth mindset and being
persistent and taking care of myself and
finding my path to confidence I I I
agree um and same with my partner I
would say the conditions are you have to
be kind to me you have to be loyal to me
you have to be loving to me those
conditions have to be met but my
underlying and your underlying
conditions are not transactional they're
more mut they create Mutual connection
whereas for some people they are they
don't those conditions don't create
connection they are just conditions so
it is just Rich you stay beautiful you
stay rich and once either of us breaks
the contract we go because there's no
actual Connection in that creates
longevity which I look I here's a thing
I have no problem with transactional
relationships I actually think in this
day and age I can actually understand
why a woman would say you know what you
can't trust men anymore they all cheat
they all do all this nonsense I rather
be with a rich guy have all my kids with
a rich guy and then if he gets divorced
we get divorced I completely understand
that guy and similarly I totally
understand the man that says you know
what women they're all the same headache
they all want the same thing why why
would I be with one that doesn't give me
any sex when I could be with a young
girl that's constantly got energy and
she gives me sex I totally understand
the transaction but what I don't
understand is a delusion behind it if
you know that's what you're going for
don't expect intimacy from that
connection so I I'll meet people in
those relationships where the man
genuinely believes there's an intimate
long-lasting monogamous connection but
it's not possible if you're just I agree
with doing absolutely anything you want
just don't be delusional about it if
you're dating a woman half your age that
doesn't speak the same language totally
fine you're using her for her beauty but
expect her to be using you for your
looks men are genuinely believe no no no
she loves me she loves me because of the
term hypergamy because I'm more powerful
and more successful women only care
about those things more once they're
fundamentally attracted to you they have
to be attracted to you first then we
give a [ __ ] if you're intelligent and in
powerful and successful but if that
underlying attraction is not there then
we're just using you and the underlying
attraction can't be there when there's a
significant age Gap some people will say
no no no it can 90% of the time when
couples like that happen she always
leaves with a younger man she'll leave
with the broke personal trainer she'll
leave with somebody that's around her
saying because here's the thing with
women we fall in love with connection
and we have the most connection with
people who are similar to us and when we
got huge age grab he might be gorgeous
but we are not connected to somebody
that is from a completely different
generation or anything they're just not
connected so this is something that and
forget so what is it then that causes um
a woman to really fall for somebody like
what should guys be um aiming at she has
to be naturally attracted to you first
and foremost so she can't fall in love
without some element of her what what
like guys are going to go collect skills
or attributes what are the skills
attributes that women find enticing um
well outside of her naturally being I
always choose women who are attracted to
you I always say to men you will never
ever get the same level of respect and
love from a woman who's not attracted to
you choose a woman who's attracted to
you when you try and bypass that because
you want a woman above out of your
league and you just want that she can be
out of your league as long as she's
still attracted to you some women are
just attracted to you regardless so she
has to be attracted and how you measure
how attracted she is to you is how much
a physical affection she initiates
doesn't have to be women won't always
initiate sex but when we're attracted to
a man we constantly initiate physical
contact so how much she has to be
attracted to you once she's attracted to
you she has to trust your judgment how
does you trust your judgment you have
intense amount of self-control you with
at all areas of your life you're you're
controlled with your money you're
controlled with your food you're in
control with with you know your intell
everything you you have self-control if
you are impulsive and you are chaotic
some women will find that attractive but
they are usually also very impulsive and
chaotic women most women want a man that
they know is naturally somewhat
responsible it might sound boring in the
short term but in the long run there is
nothing more unattractive than an old
teenager what is an old teenager a grown
man who's still impulsive so don't be
that guy it's just not attractive to a
woman learn to control your impulses
whether that means your aggression
whether that means your anger whether it
means your sex whether it means your
food you learn the art of self-control
because only through self-control then
you can achieve you can achieve whatever
you want without self-control it's like
you have to stop and start everything
you start in life you have to stop and
start whether you make money or whether
you have start a great relationship if
you don't practice self-control you
won't have self-respect and therefore
you won't you won't actually achieve
your long-term Vision so really practice
a lot of self-control I would say that
is really important for women and you
know the usual obviously charm and
skills and all those things but you live
a life that you're proud of one problem
with men that you know not men but it
can be for a lot of people is what's
really unattractive is when a man lives
a double life there are so many men that
in public they might be very admirable
might be very successful whatever it is
but their private life is one that is
shambolic or one that they're
embarrassed of or they're asham ashamed
of they might be doing things privately
that they're not proud of you need to
become a man that if there was a camera
following you in private you would have
no you would actually be proud of the
things that you do in private whereas
when you live a double life the problem
is you'll have to use your false self to
attract a woman and then she'll discover
the real you and she'll leave and you
almost you know always tiptoeing around
women because you know that if she knew
the real you she wouldn't be attracted
so the key is to become a person who
whose private self is congruent with
their public self and as a result you'll
be more attractive I know that's a very
vague answer but essentially we're
attracted to a man that is able to look
after us and that requires
responsibility yeah W say that it's a
vague answer but I think it would be
useful to understand um one why aren't
men doing this now because this is just
all from my generation just common sense
yeah so why aren't men doing it now and
then how does this manifest like uh go
start a business go sadly the reason why
they're not doing it now is impulsivity
is still rewarded by women because
before they would have to earn sex and
they'd have to earn access to women now
on a drunken night out they can get her
drunk you can get drunk and you can get
her so impulsivity in this Society is
really rewarded even when it comes toar
making money if you impulsively invest
invest in a particular cryptocurrency
you can become a millionaire overnight
so the the culture we liv